What am I doing wrong?

It does take a lot of work to organise these things and one does like to be thanked. If I go out with a friend and she has already booked theatre tickets or reserved a table for lunch I always make a point of thanking her. It just seems the natural thing to do.

You aren't doing anything wrong Soutra. This time of year is so busy, emotions somehow get higher than at any other time of the year. If you enjoy your book group, I'd try and let this go if you can. It amazes me that so many of us are thoughtless about acknowledging when others have made efforts as you have. Still, I'm often amazed by casual ill manners - am I getting old!?

kitty your suggestion that one of them might be on GN did make me think!!! I have had a moan about one of the group before now! I am trying to remember what I said Oo-er!

In my working life I arranged celebration meals and Christmas dinner dances over the years, it's a thankless task and you cannot please everyone.

Some people are very grateful and others complain about how loud the band is even if you have arranged for quiet rooms to be available.

It's quite a job organizing events especially for high numbers and most people don't realize just what actually goes into it.

In your case these people are rude and bad mannered and it can be upsetting but you have to just let it go over your head. It wouldn't surprise me if the majority did enjoy the meal but just didn't think to say they had, some people just don't think.

But hasn't Soutra said that all but one had actually contacted her with written (emailed) thanks by lunchtime the following day? And I assume they had thanked her too after the meal itself? I don't really think they were rude and bad mannered at all, and I'm sure they did appreciate the effort that Soutra went to.

I have a friend who regularly organises amazing get-togethers and always adds her own little touches to any event - personalised gifts, etc. We love her to bits and always make sure she knows how much we appreciate the work she puts in. If it wasn't for people like her we would probably all lose touch.

Lots of people are more thoughtless these days and take everything for granted.
I have a problem with people who do not return hospitality. They come and stay, get fed, wined and dined and taken out but dont ask us back. They thank us and say they are looking forward to seeing us again but never invite us to theirs.
I am getting that i dont want them to come anymore.
I am not a hotel!