Facebook rant

I use Facebook as a way of connecting with my son overseas so I am on it a lot.
If it is any consolation the newsfeed on Facebook is changing constantly so any post in public view tends to be there for a very short time. I would imagine it is now buried beneath a ton of trivia and would be hard to find.
I hope your situation improves

A member of my family has/had filters in their ears and would get very upset about their interpretation of anything you said. It is very wearing to keep editing and thinking about everything you say and how they might misinterprete it, even then everything still got misinterpreted.

My biggest worry in this case would be whether Thistledoo's daughter behaves like this with her own daughter and how this is affecting the child.

FlicketyB thank you for your message and yes we worry constantly that DD outbursts might indeed happen behind closed doors, and affect my little DGD. But she never says anything to us and we are a bit afraid to question her. She definitely loves her mummy very much and I feel it would be inappropriate to put her under any pressure. I have to be very careful not to jepordize our relationship as I do much of the childcare.
Thank you all again for you kind words and helpful advice.

I think we all realise from reading posts on here, how very many people and families have problems, usually mental health problems in some shape or form. It's so common, and yet so [generally] pushed under the carpet.As Mothers, we always tend to blame ourselves, but usually it's out of our control isn't it? They grow up, and they are the way they are, it's genetics, character etc. A bitter pill to swallow when it's your own son or daughter though.Once you have 'made peace' with this idea [because you can't fight it] all you can do is to be there for them when you can [but allow yourself to do happy things too.]This is what I have come to realise.
You are a good and stable influence for your little grand-daughter thistledoo and as she grows up will appreciate you more and more.

Sometimes we have to live through the hurt caused. You can't 'tough it out' - she's your daughter; you're bound to feel pain with all this.
Totally agree with not doing anything to make matters worse. What's important is repairing the damage somehow, rather than being 'right', however unfair and unjust this indoubtedly is. As Eloethan says, your DD might have mental health problems, undiagnosed, which have caused her to react in this way. Big hugs coming your way - I know I'd be heartbroken if it was me. I sometimes find Facebook a mixed blessing, for various reasons, and this is a case in point. There was a time when my DD didn't like our response to something she'd told us and rather than keep this private and in the family, she chose to broadcast it over Facebook, rather hurtfully. In the end I emailed her (we were away on holiday at the time) and as gently as I could, said that there would always be times when we didn't agree, for one reason or another, but that we'd been hurt by the fact that what we thought was a private family matter was now subject to the judgement of other Facebook users. I didn't rant (though I wanted to!) and finished by saying that we loved her no matter what.

She deleted the Facebook posting without further ado, to our relief.

I hope your daughter will do likewise - it's more important to sort differences out within the family. Thinking of you, Thistledo!