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welcome nightowl...lovely poem thankyou..

Libra very wise.

I am off acquacise but quick update. We had awful shock Sunday after our lovely day Saturday we discovered a photo of pirmgra daughters o. F book. Myndaighter seems to have blocked me totally now, but we looked on my husbands page and she did not realise he was o f book we think and the photo came Up! It is lovley one of mollie our oldest Grandaughter only one we know and Daisy and baby Lola it broke my heart but in some ways was pleased to see it.

If further made me feel so ashamed of my daughter to share this photo with so called f book "friends" yet block her mum. I refuse to react I like you mollie will. NEver contact her again or go see her way too distressing have done all that so often. She now blocked her dad and removed photo.

On bright side we had lovely afternoon with my nephew wife and our great niece and I also did lot cleaning yesterday! Seem getting health back on track not looking forward to further scan Thursday though myocardial
Perfusion imaging anyone had one?

Was gorgeous day yesterday not good today's, still off acquacise and client so 2 husband at work but busy day,
Happy tuesday all
How is your mum smileless?

Damn iPad mean like you Dollie will have to leave door open for her now, even though I would write or visit if it helped I know sadly she won't come to door or acknowledge a single communication and hasn't for 5 years.

Afternoon ladies. Thank you for asking after my mum, unfortunately the news isn't very good . She has broken her arm in 3 places so they are now considering surgery to put in place pins and plates. They can't put her arm in plaster as the damage is too close to her shoulder. If they don't operate they say she'll have restricted movement, but can't guarantee this wont be the case even if they do operate. She's nearly 76 and not in good mental health so we're hoping that they decide not too.

I'm so glad you decided to 'pop on' with that lovely poem Nightowl. Isn't it strange how some people can articulate how others feel when they find it so hard to articulate those feelings themselves. I know I shall read it again and again; for you.

I so agree with you Dollie and Librchick, it takes great strength and courage to walk away from some one that you love, especially your own child. It doesn't mean you love them any the less, or have stopped loving them all together. I think it can demonstrate how much you do love them; such is the love that you feel that you simply can't take anymore of the pain they cause.

How awful for you Celebgran, that must have come as a especially seeing photo's of gc you've never actually seen before. I feel exactly the same; a plethora of photo's on face book of my gs to so called 'friends' when his grandparents, great gmother and great uncle don't even know what he looks like now!!!

Saw a brilliant door mate a few months ago which I should have bought and left on their door step "Friends always welcome, relatives by appointment only". He'd have had one hell of a job trying to push that back through our letter box wouldn't he .

Have a good rest of the day every one.

Nice poems Librachick and Nightowl Thank you
Smileless sorry to hear about your dear Mum, hope she is on the mend, with your help no doubt. Just read further, bad triple brake, my S had that when he was about 14yrs, same as your mum they couldn't put it in plaster and was going to operate, but in the end didn't, all fine now, so good luck to your mum and for her, pinch a few for yourself, its a big bunch, she'll never know
Dollie the bit about the empathy is a fact, but it is also a fact that drug taking before its developed will greatly effect or even stop the forming of it!
So my D and nasty s.i.l have no hope!! but I live in hope for my D as she did stop before she was 20.
Oh Celebgran what a shame you didn't download the lovely picture of Molly and your other GC, my ND immediately downloads anything she happens upon, and we have a few recent photos of our previous Laila and Jack that way, so next time be quick! Glad you had a good day after with your family and lovely to hear you are feeling better and stronger
xx

Smileless get two of those mats and I'll put one outside my D & N.S.i.l's house

Yogagirl I did save it ! Also printed it off! Must dash client waiting, yes just hurts she blocked.me k. Case I saw it, stupid. Me I commented so. Y niece said she will be aware I saw it. Damn won't be able to. See more. She has never
Put one on Before.

I used to spy on my younger grandaughter on facebook until she realised that i could access her status now shes blocked me ...

nightowl, your poem really does sum it up. I've read over it a few times and see myself there.

I've done it at last, finished painting today . Got immense pleasure getting all the paint trays, brushes and empty tins of paint and throwing them all in the skip. Couldn't be bothered to clean them all and any way there so cheap to buy, why bother; or am I just lazy . That was a rhetorical question ladies, so no need to answer just in case you do think I'm lazy.

Read your poem out to my hubby Nightowl and he loved it so much he's going to print it out.

Thanks for that Yogagirl hopefully mum wont need surgery; fingers crossed. I've pinched a few from the you sent for her, as you say, I don't suppose she'll notice. Yep, next time I see the mats I'll get you one as well, any other ladies require one?

Bugger!! bro has just 'phoned and mum needs to have surgery. They're hoping to be able to do it Thurs. or Fri. but she could have to wait 14 days and they want her in hospital until it's done. My poor mum .

I'm so glad that some of you have found something in the poem. It was LibraChick's very wise quote that reminded me of it. It came to me a few years ago in one of those 'round robin' emails that often make your heart sink - from a very dear friend who will persist in sending all sorts of stuff, but I have to say this time she struck gold. It's a poem that has brought me much comfort in different circumstances over the years and I think is a good reminder that however much we love our children, and however much we try to be all things to all people, in the end we need to remember that we are important too, and we have a right to seek happiness - or just peace.
to you all

And some for you, too, nightowl. xx

Very well put night owl and thank you too from me.

Smileless I don't think anyone could call you lazy ! Gosh very well done for finishing painting! called for I think.

Do hope your ,mum recovers ok take heart my friend mummis 91 and broke her knee and femur last October. She is. Ow having physio hoping to walk again ! Is a worry you could do without big hugs!

I been bit low today made acquacise and did my reg client went well but had to put photo of grandchildren away it is distressing that is all I will see of them
Got my next heart scan thursday the one where I get the radioactive injection!
Sadly got go on yo own next tuesday as husband been let down with cover. First one supposed to be worst.

I am now stuck in a low of how on earth could our daughter hurt us so much.
Got to accept it haven't i?
Got our club walk and lunch tomorrow hope its not raining!

I think you'll be OK on the weather front Celebgran so enjoy your walk.

I know what you mean about looking at photo's, we don't have loads of our gs as we didn't see that much of him, and those we do have are on my laptop, and bec. I find it so upsetting to look at them, dear hubby put them in to their own file so I don't access them by mistake It's not easy being a technophobe you know .

Speaking of being a technophobe, what's a 'round robin'

I don't know how your d can hurt you so, or how any of our children can be so cruel. That's what makes it so awful and difficult to deal with and why we all spend so much time looking for answers that we'll never find. Be strong dear Celebgran, you're doing well; we all are.

Well done Librachick for triggering Nightowls memory.

Good night everyone and sweet dreams.

Sorry Smileless a 'round robin' is one if those emails that people send with poems, jokes, whatever and ask you to pass them on to as many friends as you can. One or two I don't mind, but this particular friend used to send me one a day, sometimes more than one! ..... I love her dearly all the same.

Goodnight to you all, and thank you for the flowers Marelli. I am beginning to understand the warmth of this thread.

you lot wear me out reading about all your gallavanting lol...wish i could do more but due to poor health im not able...

im hoping the window cleaner will be here today as the windows are filthy...its a nice sunny day and quite frosty...cant wait till its warm enough to sit in the garden..

enjoy your day ...

What a lovely walk 2 problems,after getting Rosie all ready and her lunch etc she refused to come. With all that forgot my purse! My good friend did. It have much cash on her so another lady kindly lent me £20 who I so t even know well! Bless her will get her little bunch flowers as interest! So sweet.

Lovley walk coffe in nice hotel followed by lunch mmmm carvery very good.

Hope we all having sunshine on here today.

Glad you enjoyed your walk Celebgran . How lovely that some one you don't know was prepared to lend you £20. It's good to know that there are such lovely people around isn't it.

As you say Nightowl there is a lot of warmth on this thread. So pleased that you've joined us. My hubby was so touched by the poem that you posted that he's printed it out and we've stuck it on our fridge. Thanks for explaining what a 'round robin' is.

Well Dollie as long as we can wear you out chatting about our gallavanting, don't worry about not being able to do as much as you would like. I hope your window cleaner turned up today. I hate dirty windows, especially on a sunny day.

My mum is having an operation tomorrow afternoon. They say they may have to do a shoulder replacement ; I can't believe she's done so much damage falling down a few stairs. Just hope she'll be OK.

Feel like an old lady today. My legs are aching and I can't get them comfortable. I don't think it's the exercising; it might be because I'm tense about mum. I'm having some to see if that helps; well any excuse really.

Have a good evening every one. Hope you're OK Yogagirl and Librachick

Yes what a poppet smileless renews your faith !

Glad too that you like this thread night owl!

Your poor mu smileless keep us posted on that one [flowers ] for her and for you !

My poor little Rosie seems to be bit lacking energy at moment, bless!

Guess what neighbor bought dreaded chocs round for feeding cats! Put away in cupboard!

Dreading test tomorrow at 10 15 apparently that is worst one!

Nice to know there are still some nice people around celeb...chocolate for cats!! Whatever next...

Hope your mums op goes well smiles...

Terrible weather here gale winds and torrential rain...mmmmm wonder if we will have a hosepipe ban this year??? At this rate we should all have a discount on our water rates ..

Dollie bless you chocs are for us as thank you considering what we save her feeding 3 cars for 10 days not impressed eneciallly as cheap foreign ones! Trying not to eat choc too.

Off hospital. NOw for test horrid day here too.

Hope all goes well smileless for your mum.

Yogagirl hope you ok libra chick too. Must get off here we got to park etc at hospital!

Morning Girls
Rotten weather again! You were lucky with your walk yesterday Celebgran you should have given Rosie a tug to get her out for a nice walk with you. Well done on downloading the pic but fancy commenting Best of luck today with your heart scan, hope you can get someone to go with you Tuesday.
I have lots of pics of my GC, two in frames on my coffee table with me with each of them, one of the two of them on my bookcase by my bed and two as screen savers on my mobile; first one of the two of them and the inside one of Laila brushing her teeth and waving, so cute! and then one of Laila on my PC as the sreen saver, but strangly the one on my PC keeps popping on and off, which I like as its as if its her popping on to say 'hello'. But like you Smileless I'm not sure if I should put them away, if they are making me feel worse, but when I think about putting them away, I can't do it as I feel like I'm packing them away and I don't want to do that. Can't stand the fact that I'm never going to see them again, I say to myself move on, but I can't
Smileless so sorry to hear your mum does need surgery, hope all goes well for her.
Nightowl Thank you for your words, I will try and take them on board and I'll re-read your poem.
for you all xx

Two lovely poems to save, Thank you Dollie and Nightowl and a lovely quote from Librachick to save too. Thank you for taking the time to share. xx .

ooops celeb i read that as cats eating choccies lol...

You could always take them to your nearest food bank Celeb. After all Lent starts on Wednesday.