to think the Idiot is wrong?

Kitty It is a problem when DDs need legal advice but refuse to take it. my DD's circumstances were different, she was seriously injured in a car accident, and was advised to make a claim for compensation. Her job means that she sees these ambulance chasing claim company adverts a lot and she initially refused to 'demean' herself by becoming a 'claimant'.

We worked on it gradually and in the end she permitted me to contact a firm of local solicitors who had a personal accident specialist, on her behalf and I accompanied her to her first appointment. Once we had got over the hurdle of the first visit she continued on her own.

Do you know why your DD doesn't want to contact a solicitor? Would she be happy to see a solicitor if you made the first contact and then accompanied her to the first appointment?

happened with relatives of ours- they had to pay for mortgage on the home, repairs, car, kids private education- for many many years as daughter didn't want to involve solicitors and wanted to be 'pleasant about it all' - in the end they just had to say enough is enough- and it was very hard but for the best in the longterm.

In fact, it has happened to several friends of ours, as well as relatives.

What about a bit of emotional black mail. Talk about the effects on the children of the families uncertain financial position and be honest about what it is costing you financially to have them living with you.

There comes a time when tough love is in everybody's best interests.

A friend of ours got into an awful mess by trying not to rock the boat or involve the authorities. When she separated from her husband she moved out of their council house with her daughter and left her son with his father. The Council decided she had made herself homeless and, after a lot of argument, gave her a nasty little flat in a not very salubrious area. All her furniture and belongings had been left with her husband who was living comfortably and collecting various benefits because the son had special needs. I can't tell you how much trouble she caused us for several years because of her "Not wanting to cause any trouble"