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dirty old men

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etheltbags1 Fri 21-Aug-15 21:32:06

Am I being unreasonable to expect men aged 80+ to be polite, and reasonably behaved. I would have thought men of that age would have learned how to behave.
I joined an art and craft class where members are all over 60, one character is aged 88 and a sex pest, he only targets me the youngest and touches my leg regularly, makes innuendoes and last week he thrust his pelvis several times into my side as I sat, if I had turned my head he would have been in my face. He had an object in his trousers, I think a tea towel or suchlike to make an enormous bulk and he asked me if that was enough. I tried to ignore him but hes just a pest. I have been advised to hit him, threaten him, throw water over him or really insult him. I don't know what to do .This is a self organised group and we do not have a leader.
I really thought that in this day and age sexual harassment was over, no more disgusting wolf whistles as I pass a building site, no more remarks like 'get yer tits oot' as I walk past a group of men, no more being groped or have remarks like, 'can I feel your buns hinny' etc etc and best of all no more groping. However it seems that men just cant help themselves, so shall I hit him, insult him or say something demeaning.

etheltbags1 Mon 26-Oct-15 21:31:14

I think the group has had a word with him as they told me he was too embarrassed to return a few weeks ago and now he has he hasn't said a wrong word. Im only being lenient to him because of his age, anyone else and I would have taken it further.

FarNorth Tue 27-Oct-15 15:37:51

Keep giving him the evil eye! It might make him too nervous to try it on with anyone else.

etheltbags1 Tue 27-Oct-15 19:05:38

Im not angry anymore with him hes just a sad old man and I don't have an evil eye, Im sweet and kind and wouldn't know how to do the 'evil eye' if I tried smile

FarNorth Tue 27-Oct-15 21:07:09

Oh, I think you should try, ethelt. It would be all the more effective from a sweet old lady grin

etheltbags1 Sun 01-Nov-15 20:22:11

ive never been called s sweet old lady before lol, I will take it as a complement. farnorth

LuckyDucky Tue 03-Nov-15 08:29:38

ethel what's the latest on the DOM?

Ranting isn't good, being succinct is. All will know you're not someone to mess with thlsmile on here, or for real.

"Good on yer."

FarNorth Tue 03-Nov-15 11:22:07

confused If you read recent posts you'll know the latest LuckyDucky confused

LuckyDucky Tue 03-Nov-15 11:53:34

Ok blush

etheltbags1 Wed 18-Nov-15 20:43:57

I saw the dirty old man at the art class today and he was late, the only seat being next to me, he sort of showed the whites of his eyes and pulled out a table next to his friends and sat there, he has never made any more remarks to offend. I walked past on my way home and I admired the others work and nodded to him and said 'that's good' and he just smiled a bit so I think hes learned his lesson. Thank goodness.