being annoyed at people wearing black to a wedding?

Perhaps they were Goths. Can't see the problem myself, and I've never heard of the 'no black' tradition at weddings. So yes, I think YABU.

I agree, I also find that very strange. I do not consider that it is dressing appropriately wearing black when at a wedding. The only items of black I would be wearing would be my shoes and handbag. Maybe trousers but the top and jacket would be colourful.

In some cultures White is worn at funerals. Recently I have seen wedding photos where the bridesmaids wore black.
DS and DIL recently went to a wedding where the dress code was black and white. So I guess it's up to personal preferences.

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I saw a wedding recently where all 6 bridesmaids were in black dresses. And the bride had black trimmings on her dress. Personally not my kind of thing, but to each his own!!

DD3 had 3 bridesmaids all in different style dresses but all black worn with a cream shrug. Very stylish. These days you can wear what you want and what you feel good in. I wore silvery grey trousers and kimono jacket to the wedding and felt great and relaxed. Mother of the bride outfits with matching everything , circa 1960, was not for me!!

I went to a wedding where the bridesmaids wore black dresses and looked like a trio of crows! The groom and ushers with their black ties looked extremely funereal. I suspect that the bride thought it would be chic but it really seemed to have the opposite effect. Very gloomy!

The last wedding I was at I wore a black suit with a cream blouse, it was February and very cold. I think you should be able to wear exactly want you want.

'Annoyed'? Why? It's not up to the OP or anyone else to feel annoyed at what anyone chooses to wear to a wedding - or to a funeral for that matter. What the youngsters who organise their weddings around such a colour scheme don't need is a lot of oldies 'tut, tutting' behind their hands because they feel that some unwritten 'rule' has been broken.
I intend to leave instructions that nobody should feel obliged to wear black at my funeral, though I hope that won't happen for a few years yet.

For elegance in black and white, see Cecil Beaton's designs in the Ascot scene in My Fair Lady

I thought the only rule for wedding guests was to look smart, tidy, and cheerful. I can't remember what anyone wore at my last wedding and nobody took any photographs. It was a lovely day and we all (all six of us: DH, me, two DDs, and two friends) went punting on the Cherwell. Had a fab time.

How many weddings have you had,*bags*?

Yes, OP you are being unreasonable.

My friend is wearing black to her daughters wedding and her outfit looks stunning, she has a Phillip Treachy (?) hat which is amazing. She has silver grey hair which compliments her outfit.

I think you may wear whatever you like to a wedding, a little black dress with a pale wrap would look great.On the other hand, wearing solid black would look a bit odd at a wedding.

I wouldn't personally wear plain black or white to a wedding: white might be seen as competing with the bride. On the other hand, these days anything goes, so unless the bride and groom have stated otherwise, I guess you can wear what you please.

Two, phoenix. At ages twenty-one and forty-two, so the next one's due in three years when I'm sixty-three .

I wouldn't choose to wear black but I can't see why not.

Oh for goodness sake! Is it any of your or my business what colour people choose to wear?
Lots of people ask for friends and family to wear colours to funerals anyway, is it really worth discussing ?

I think it looks gloomy to see several people together dressed in black. Many people choose to wear it, tho, as they feel it looks smart.

I wore a black coat dress to my brother's second wedding. Very apt as the marriage lasted 18 months.

I once saw a wedding where the bride wore black, but it was a proper wedding dress, loads of lace and frills, but black, and it looked gorgeous. In complete contrast, the bridesmaids wore red.

Not black or white for a wedding guest

Must be worth discussing Alea, else you wouldn't have joined in