Constructive criticism?

Right, thank you Ana. Not a turn of phrase. I had ever come across. But live and learn

I have heard it before.

I goggled to find the origin. Urban Dictionary - do a disappearing act.

Not a particularly elegant turn of phrase either.

But I think the origin is likely to be ruder than that. It's Northern and we know what they're like up there.

That's what I said...

(and I didn't need to goggle it!)

That was direct d at Ana.

He he he!

"goggle it".

How dare you cast nasturtiums on us Northerners, jingl!

I may have to start a thread about it...

I thought you had to use a finger signal at the same time as saying "do one" in a loud voice. It's beyond my level of rudeness though so I have never done it .

Yeah. Go on then. See how long it lasts before the red print message appears.

Why does "thread deleted" sound so ominous when printed in red, in 'threads I'm on'? Always a helluva shock.

Which finger Pollengran?

I'm half Northern (so they tell me)

Really proud of that!

I think it's the middle finger of the right hand.. .

You THINK Pollengran .....

I've never heard it before except:

"Have you done one?" used to be a question DM asked me every morning when I was young, before I went to school.
She was very keen on regular habits.

Starting a thread like this is in itself contentious because, as jingle said, people immediately start wondering who the criticism is being aimed at.

If you think someone has been unfair, overly judgmental or rude on a thread, why not just say so straight away to the person in question?

It's no one in particular who has been rude to me or said anything they shouldn't and I am a big girl, my back is broad, I can take criticism, it's just that I think some posts on here are uncalled for and people could be kinder to each other.

It's not about the political threads because I don't go there anymore, it's threads in general. And if I had been upset by anyone, I would tell them, either on the thread or in a PM, I have never hid away nor not stood up for myself. It's not my style to not say something direct, so you can all relax, it's just an observation over the last few months.

All I think is that we are grannies, we should be able to chat and give opinions without being offensive to each other. As the quote in Toy Story "Now Play Nice", please?

Do one Jalima not have you done one. Made me laugh anyway. Off to work now, have a good day everyone.

I have always operated on the theory that if someone offends me or mine, I will address that as forcefully as I can, but what other people say to others is quite simply their business and so up to them.
What the original post outlined is very much in the spirit of Forum guidelines anyway and where those are breached, GNHQ reserves the right to delete a post or take stronger action.
Seems adequate.

Fussing about what who said to whom is just "stirring"

I agree. I think complaining about the rudeness of "no-one in particular" is stirring. There are procedures in place to complain about particular rudeness by particular posters if and when. Use them if you want to. Otherwise join in the discussion.

Those were the days - when we used to do one after breakfast, and that was it for the day. Sigh.

(that was in answer to j)

Nothing makes me want to shout F**K OFF more than someone suggesting we should 'Play nicely' if things get a bit heated.

I haven't reached the ripe old age of 69 without developing a deep loathing of condescending comments.

I've been away so must have missed the thread that this thread is referring to or is it one of those 'Think I'll just stir things up' threads?