My cleaner came again today, she's not been for a while, due to DS being at home for the summer and it being pointless cleaning while he was making mess all the time. Plus, for a while before that, when she came, she was really skittish, hyper like, running about the house disorganised in her work even though I have told her what I want done.
Today she took photos of the kitchen when she had finished and told me to keep it clean for next week when she came back. She told me that she would do a "before" and "after" picture next week. I think that is insulting. I text her before she came today and asked her to have patience with me as I find her hard to deal with but I was willing to give her one more chance. I don't think she says things or does things maliciously, she just says things without thinking but I don't need it right now. I need someone who is more organised, calm and will just go about it as I need, without comment on whether it is a mess or not.
It was the first thing she said, that it was a mess. I have bought some things over the last few months for when my DS left home and the things were around, waiting for her to have cleaned and then I could put out the new things, like you would. One was a new microwave. She was trying to insist on unpacking it and putting it in place on the unit top. She grabbed the washing up things and put them out and also the new bins. I know it's not much, but I have been looking forward to doing all that for ages, making a home for myself, not have my cleaner take over from me.
After an hour and a half I had had enough but she was booked for two hours so she insisted to stay the full time. I mean, what was I supposed to say, please go now? It's got to me all day and my throat has been tight again all day.
Would others put up with behaviour like this off their cleaner? How do I dismiss her and tell her I no longer require her services? I will find someone more appropriate but I am not good at letting people down. Do I be honest or white lie? I could say that SS have sent someone to help me instead, just to save her feelings?
I want to feel better, not to feel stressed, no matter who it is.
Irritating personality traits haven't softened - do friendships change?
Needed but feeling left out - do others feel the same?
Where were you on this day? - moon landing