I still get irritated by this - AIBU to hate being referred to as a 'girl'...

The word 'chap' is simply not a term I've ever been familiar with. I'm not objecting to it, it just seems rather an olden-day word.

Honestly some people on this forum must get up especially early to get as much annoyed as possible into the day. The things people object too! Sounds like grumpy old women to me.

A man I was with referred to TV newsreaders and said, "They're nearly all girls now". I objected and told him they are women not girls. He doesn't like the word "women", they must be called girls or ladies. He is patronising, there's no other word for it.

Really sorry but what does AIBU stand for?

I must have missed the memo that said we should be offended by the word ladies. I still see it as just a polite version of the word women. What's patronising about it?

Caro 1954...Am I Being Unreasonable

I often refer to my friends as girls...I'm going out with the girls. Can't see anything wrong with it...quite like it tbh

Honestly some people on this forum must get up especially early to get as much annoyed as possible into the day. The things people object too! Sounds like grumpy old women to me.

... and coming on to a thread especially to tell those freely expressing an opinion is ...?

Yes, but GGMK2, the OP asked a question
Am I Being Unreasonable?

and people are answering.

woman: generic word for a female human being
lady: a woman of refined behaviour and speech

Mrs Bucket comes to mind. It seems to me that 'ladies' is a left over from the classism of the past - and loos.

I know that Jalima so why should BonnieBlooming, who I quoted, feel we need to be criticised for offering an opinion? I am really not sure what you are complaining about.

loo?
is it wrong to say loo now?


I will be sent to Room 101

Who's Bonnieblooming?

Bonnie blooming heather?

No Jalima - you seem to be reading for affect rather than what is written

BonnieBlooming Mon 01-May-17 21:16:22. That is where the quote came from.

don't know what you're on about

reading for affect doesn't make sense

She's another poster
Apologies BonnieBlooming I missed your post

Thankyou nannypink1!

Not a lot seems to for you tonight Jalima.

Well, as I haven't been on here tonight until now then how would you know?

Perhaps if your post made some sense I could understand it.
But it doesn't.
Unless, of course, it is just grammatically incorrect or spelt incorrectly.

Honestly some people on this forum must get up especially early to get as much annoyed as possible into the day. The things people object too! Sounds like grumpy old women to me

... and coming on to a thread especially to tell those freely expressing an opinion is ...?
Is also expressing an opinion

It could well be grammatically incorrect or spelt incorrectly Jalima although I do spend an inordinate amount of time trying to ensure it isn't.

Or, MawBroon, another version of a grumpy old women.

Did you mean "effect" GGMk2?

As for grumpy old women maybe grumpy old girls??
If OP's "rather nice chap" was getting on a bit, OP's 50 year old friend could have been young enough to be his daughter. Surely "girls" is excusable in the context??
I do find the "Hi" disconcerting though. Even as a child I was not allowed to use it to grown ups, it being only permissible among school friends ?
Surely it is better manners to say "Good morning " - ?

Yet again I have no idea what you are talking about MawBroon. Did I mean "effect" where?

It appears there are at least a couple of pompous twits on here. I am more than happy to be classed as one of the "girls"and don't have a problem with being one of the "ladies" either. I neither feel that the first is infantalising me nor the other is inappropriate in this day and age. I much prefer these forms of address to being called a miserable old git behind my back. My daughter and daughters-in-law, all between mid 40s and early 50s, always refer to themselves as '"the girls" when they are arranging an evening out.