You have my total sympathy and understanding.You are not bring unreasonable as it is the manner in which these things are done that counts.
I had a difficult relationship with my mother but tried to keep things easy. It was very difficult at times.
She would arrive unannounced to stay for several days and before her coat was off would walk round feeling the compost in my houseplants always declaring " these plants are as dry as sticks" and proceed to carry them into the kitchen to be watered. That is the absolute truth.
She would critisise and find fault with as much as she could.
It was a huge relief when she could no longer use public transport and had to be fetched to visit.
I can see you reaching for your keyboard to ask why I put up with this but until you have lived with it, it is hard to understand. I was an only child and my father died when I was eleven. I was told on a daily basis how much my mother had done for me, what sacrifices she had made.
I was all she had and she would have walked out and did once, when I told her a few home truths and I had to to the apologizing and making things right again as my conscience would not let me do anything else. Things are never black and white in relationships.
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