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Kids having kids & unproteced sex

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norose4 Sat 20-May-17 16:57:13

With more knowledge & access to birth control, what do Gransnetters think of the increasing numbers of young girls getting pregnant & not knowing which man (boy)may be the father & are often the result of one night stands & who then go on to repeat the process, sometimes again & again,has society let them down by somehow sending out the wrong message & woman's lib has somehow backfired?

gillybob Fri 26-May-17 10:25:42

I have mentioned my sons "father" (it even sticks in my throat to refer to him as such) on threads in the past trisher. He and I were pushed into marriage (to save face) and the marriage lasted a matter of weeks/months before he got a much better offer and left me holding the baby. We were very young and should have never got married. Over the years I tried to maintain a kind of relationship with him for the sake of my son but he wasn't interested (too busy playing jack the lad to be bothered with a baby) he never paid a single penny towards my sons upkeep and didn't so much buy him a tee shirt or a pair of shoes his entire life. My son went through a bad time in his teenage years and definitely suffered because of the continued rejection. At 17 he had a breakdown after his "father" agreed to meet him on numerous occasions and then failed to show. My sons "father" went on to inpregnate a few other women after me and then later became a pillar of society with a very prestigious job. He died of a heart attack (probably brought in from taking steroids but that's another story) and my son, my grandma and I went to his funeral together and listened to the eulogies for this "wonderful man" my son didn't get a mention as though he didn't exist.

trisher Fri 26-May-17 10:29:45

That's so awful gillybob but you must be so proud to think that you have brought your son up so differently and that he knows what a real man's responsibilities are.

gillybob Fri 26-May-17 10:57:03

Not particularly proud trisher just relieved that my son has grown up to be nothing like his waste of space "father" he loves his children, they are his life, In fact he couldn't be any less like his "father" other than how he looks. smile

Norah Fri 26-May-17 17:47:31

gillybob, the bit you are missing is you are and were the perfect mum, for him.

Starlady Mon 29-May-17 12:59:27

Oh, gillybob, your posts are breaking my heart! Except for the part about ds growing up to be a good father, etc. Bravo to him - and you!

Starlady Mon 29-May-17 13:02:00

Thanks, trisher, for bringing up the dads in these scenarios. I get the ops' concerns, but the boys/men are responsible, too, not just the girls/women.

jenpax Sun 25-Jun-17 10:09:50

Agreed as usual women get singled out for comment on sexual issues no one comments on the males!