to expect mail to be addressed to me?

LesleyC Why do you need to advise your bank you are going on holiday unless you intend trekking around the world for a year or two.If DH is so easy going and if it annoys you to have to ask his permission to speak to Sky and Bt why have it in his name in the first place. These companies could be approached by anyone and by doing what they are doing then covers them against fraud.

Yes I had something similar happen. I had always had an account with a local building society but thought I would add my husband's name just in case I was ever too ill to access the money. As soon as I did that everything started coming in his name. I went absolutely ballistic and write a really strong letter and also phoned them up to complain. I had an abject apology everything from then on was duplicated and they sent me £25 as an apology.x

If it is joint 'either to sign' then you should receive it direct to you - but if it is joint, both to sign and his name is the first, then correspondence will go to him.

I booked a holiday with Saga and paid the deposit. I was lead passenger so why did all the documentation come addressed to DP? I was cross because though we had discussed the holiday ( for my significant birthday) I was going to surprise him

I've had a similar problem with Natwest. It was my current account and I've had it for years and we decided it would be a good idea to make all our accounts joint. Since then everything is addressed to my OH who actually never uses the account. I've asked for mail to be addressed to me but Natwest just ignore the request.