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Oldwoman70 Wed 03-Jan-18 12:20:15

I am fortunate to have a large drive and am happy for my neighbours with smaller drives to park on it as long as I can get in an out. New Years day I saw a strange car on the drive, parked in such a way as to prevent me getting out. I assumed it belonged to a guest of my next door neighbour and ignored it until I needed to leave the house at mid-day. Rang my neighbour, not his. I then had to go along the street knocking on all the doors to find out who it belonged to. Eventually found it was a neighbour at the far end of the street, who has never spoken to me. I asked if the car could be moved as I was going out. The neighbour said the owner was still in bed but that she would tell him

After 20 minutes I went back and said I was still waiting for the car to be moved to be told the owner was in the shower!! Again said I was waiting to go out and could someone else move it only to be told he didn't like anyone else driving his car and that I was being unreasonable as he wouldn't be much longer!! Told them that I didn't care if he was stark naked the car had better be moved immediately as I was going to ring a friend who owned a tow truck and lived 5 minutes away to come and move it for me (I don't!) A young man with wet hair and looking very angry arrived and moved the car.

Now the reason I am seething - was speaking to my next door neighbour today and he said that the first neighbour is telling everyone how unreasonable I was! angry

Sorry just felt the need to rant to someone!!!

johnofwhixall Fri 05-Jan-18 18:48:04

People dont park anymore they abandon

try and upload the image

Sennelier1 Fri 05-Jan-18 20:14:42

I think that from now on you should block your drive and put up a sign that neighbours are allowed to park once they've agreed on some simple rules. Like making sure you always have full usage of your own drive.

Clarecrip1 Fri 05-Jan-18 21:19:44

I think you have been seriously taken advantage of here, the young man should have been required to move his car as soon as you asked him to.
I think it’s really lovely that you are happy to let your neighbours park on your drive, long may it continue, but people also have to respect that they are parking on your land. They should all be asking your permission and checking when/if you need to go out yourself.
To be honest, if I’d found a completely strange car parked on my land, with no forewarning, I would probably have phoned the Police and reported it as an abandoned vehicle, possibly stolen? That might have given the owner something to think about!
Equally, it’s quite tempting to suggest you start charging, if people want to use your land as a car park, causing wear and tear to your property, maybe they should start paying for the privilege!
You are certainly not being unreasonable to expect to be able to get on and off your property as and when you need to. The unreasonable bit is assuming it’s ok to invade someone else’s property and dump your car there!

tiffaney Fri 05-Jan-18 22:11:43

I would be furious. We were angry (which l voiced on here recently) when a neighbours teenage kids and their friends kept parking in front of our house and that wasn't even on the drive! Stick to your guns, you're in the right.

Shizam Fri 05-Jan-18 22:57:11

Park your car in drive in such a way that no one but you can park there. If neighbours you like, want to park there, explain why and allow them in as a favour. Then when they’ve lost their easy free parking, they may have a word with the annoying neighbour on your behalf to keep their beneficial deal.

haporthrosie Sat 06-Jan-18 00:54:20

'Do not park here! You shall smart for this!' Flanders and Swann, 'The Gnu Song'

Oldwoman, the world needs more people like you; in fact I think the world needs more like most of us on GN. Love your neighbour's idea for the sign and Phoenix and Grannie Guitar's curses! Pins into wax models of his big end, definitely!

Catgrandma's sadly spot-on. Everything these days is 'I'm never wrong, someone else is' and it's madness. It's completely manipulative and has become so entrenched it boggles the mind. But if generous-hearted people change then we're just handing the victory to the rotten little cowards.

Benjiesmum, please take Alchamilla's advice. Don't have any more to do with this person. She's a particularly nasty form of tea-leaf. Hope things work out.

harrigran Sat 06-Jan-18 09:02:15

Like the selfishparker website, we have a FB page for our town called parking like a t* in ******.

chloeclogs Mon 08-Jan-18 01:01:08

He's an idiot. I'm sure all the neighbours he's spoken to will be on your side. After all they wouldn't like it if it happened to them especially on New Years Day as most people going out would be expected at friends or relatives at a certain time as I was myself.

leemw711 Thu 08-Feb-18 03:55:27

How horrible to have such unreasonable neighbours - I live next door to a man who will accept parcels addressed to me but then refuse to hand them over when I call for them. Don’t know what use he makes of the samples of products such as household cleaners and disposable nappies which I am sent but I think it’s a real cheek to nick ‘em from me!

NannyJan53 Thu 08-Feb-18 10:36:57

Surely that is theft?

In the future when ordering anything, I would tell them to make a note not to leave at your neighbours address if you are not in!

On the original post, it seems many people are quite selfish when parking and see it as their 'right' to park wherever they like!

Mapleleaf Fri 09-Feb-18 14:12:59

It is theft. Did the deliverer leave a card saying parcel left with neighbour. If so, maybe a chat to the police for advice. (Keep the cards as proof).

Grammaretto Sun 11-Feb-18 19:54:48

We are often blocked in by thoughtless, lazy people. Once a delivery van driver just said he'd be a minute. I was desperate to get by so got into his cab and started the engine. I've never seen anyone move so fast or swear so much. But there is a culture of lawlessness where I live. Cars park on the pavement, on white zigzag lines at traffic lights. .There's no one to enforce the law. My rant over now.

Catlady47 Thu 15-Feb-18 21:33:12

So cheeky!