Thank you all for taking the time to give me such lovely and thoughtful responses.
I should say that her flat isn't awful - its a bit small and a bit damp. Its in a reasonable area and within walking distance of our house. The reality of renting nowadays is that its stupidly expensive for stupidly little. She earns 30K a year which is a fair salary but I suppose once you take out rent and a commute to London there's not much left. Already helping out as much as we can with childcare (Im working full time in a challenging career that often requires extra hours)
She is I think lonely - though some of that is because she finds it difficult to maintain friendships but she argues she doesn't have the time or money to nurture them. My GS is of course lovely - and he loves being here when he does stay.
My house is a bog standard 2 bedroom terrace with a loft converted into a couple of smallish rooms. Wouldn't really be possible to make them very self contained - but to be honest she leaves for work at 7am and gets back about 7pm in the week with wrap round childcare.
Finances not a huge problem - Im the breadwinner and though we don't have holidays or massive cars - we pay our bills on time etc.
Lots to think about !
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