To not tell them yet?

You have a duty to tell them / put the boot on the other foot and ask yourself how you would feel if you were locked out n this way - you’re denying them the opportunity to support you - why would you want to take that away from them?

Well done for telling them.I can understand why you didn't for a while,as it's often hard seeing them upset when you're worried yourself.
They knew you weren't yourself and were concerned about you.
Good luck for Wednesday,and I'm sure whatever you'll get through it,and family are with you all the way.

I am so glad you told us. Think how many good wishes go with you on Wednesday now.

Tell them when you feel in a good place, sometimes we need to get our own balance first.

Please let us know how you get on.

Sunshine take someone with you if you can , I didn't hear a lot of what I was told and was glad my oh was with me as a second lot of ears . M children were aware I was going and I felt it made it easier when I had to say it was bc . Good luck for we'd and to all those going or starting treatment and if anyone wants to I don't mind them emailing me ?

Just tell them. They must suspect something is wrong, and all this stress is not helping your situation. You need to face it together, and then have a big celebration when all is well again.

Oh sunshine am so sorry you've got all this to worry about. Hopefully having now told your 'girls' you're feeling less worried. A problem shared and all that! Though I confess I was feeling so cross with your daughter regarding no access to your GD and it was a huge relief reading your subsequent posts.
I hope it all goes well for you this week ?

Tell them! They are probably going mad worrying about you and cross that you won't tell them what's wrong. It isn't fair on them or you!

I am so sorry you are goung through this worry, hopefully it might not be as bad as you fear
My daughter had similiar symptoms to yours, it turned out to be an abccess, [sp]
I would tell your daughtetrs so they can at least support you, and they will only worry more imagining what you are going through
Good luck for a positive,[or negative ] outcome, whichever way you look at it,

I am a breast cancer survivors as I am sure many other gransnetters are.

One of the things my DH use to say was, 'you don't know how terrible this is for me'. My thought was ' it is not so good for me.' Then my DD was diagnosed and I could see what he meant. It is often more distressful for those looking on than those in it. My DD going through treatment was far worse than when it was happening to me.

I can imagine why your DDs are angry and worried. Please tell them asap and let them support you. If you want to go on your own for the appt ok and I am not sure if you will get the results then but may have to wait a week so if you don't tell them in that week your relationships could get worse and you will not be seeing your dgc.

I know this is an awful time and not a time to be falling out with family.

Hi sunshine, I did the same as you, and got the same reaction. "I can't bring dgd over until I know what's going on with you". It's understandable, really. You suddenly start acting weird and secretive - are you having a mental breakdown? (that's what they are thinking). I have FBC (F...g Breast Cancer), still waiting for the surgery and treatment. I know when I got the diagnosis I really really missed my mom, who has been dead for 16 years. We didn't even have a close relationship. But it was her I wanted to talk to.
Good Luck. We are on the same journey. PM me any time.
M

ps. Maybe we should start a FBC forum?

Blueskies that's awful and wonderful in one sentence!!!
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Sunshine ⚘⚘⚘⚘⚘ for you too. Very brave to share something you wanted to keep private. It sounds like your dd wanted to shock you into telling her by withholding you dgc.
I'm pleased that you have the offer of support Wednesday if you want it. Good luck ⚘⚘

Tell them , I have just gone through the same thing and told my family only the night before my clinic appointment. They were so upset saying I didn`t give them the chance to arrange to come with me etc.

I got the all clear, I hope you do too but in trying to protect your family you can really upset them.

Your children are all 15 years older than the last time you were seriously ill, so things are different on that score. Your numb reaction is common, it's a shutting down of emotion to enable you to cope. You did have the awful experience of your ex buggering off last time, maybe you think your children will do that this time round? I thought it dreadful at first that you are being blackmailed (or is it bribed?) into telling them by GC visits being withheld, but maybe that's just a marker of how desperate they are to all know the truth and it's the best way they can think of to get to it.

Best of luck - stupid expression I know but can't think of a sensible one in the circs - and let us know. (flowers)

Hope all goes well on Wednesday

Your DDs know something is wrong and upsetting you so they react by stopping you from seeing your Dgs? This is mean and unkind. Tell them what the problem is and that it has been particularly upsetting to not see your Dgs.

Clearly your DDs would rather know what's wrong, and I would hope give you lots of support.

Tell them, and apologize for your reactions but most importantly, don't lose any time you have with your grandchildren. You may be well, but then you may not be, but you don't want to give them the impression you were a difficult granny because they will only remember how you were with them not the reasons you had for your behaviour! This may sound blunt but let your nearest and dearest in and let them experience giving their love and understanding rather than putting the barriers up. My very best wishes for a good outcome.

We all need support in times of worry so please tell them ASAP ?

I do wish people would read the thread before commenting

She HAS told her children folks

blueBelle just what I was thinking!

hoping things go ok for you on Wednesday...

I forgot to say it's very difficult for any of us, in the family, to conceal things from each other. We can always tell when there is something bothering going on, even on the phone.

Bluebelle thanks for saying what I was thinking with such irritation- why don’t people RTFT before giving OP their advice, in this case to tell her family her huge worry!

Sunshine, the very best of luck on Wednesday, we’ll all be thinking of you, and please let us know the outcome.

I understand your dilemma. We decided not to tell the AC until we knew what was going on with my H. When we broke the news they were cross as said they had been denied the opportunity to support us and knew something was wrong anyway. A difficult decision to make but now we tell them. Thinking back, I realised I would have been upset if mom hadn't told me about Dad's cancer. It's a difficult one for sure. Good luck with your appointment.

For you Sunshine and wishing you well