Is this odd behaviour for a bride?

I’ve just been in Facebook gransnet where this thread is accompanied by a photo. Is this just an archive one or the real thing ?

Very odd not something that would bode well with me as a MIL,would you not think there are possibly going to be guests at this wedding that attended the first one and they would remember her wearing the same dress ??

Odd people are interesting. This thread is proof.

Perhaps I should say odd things people do...

Would it bother many brides if their husband to be wore his best suit to get married in, which he had already worn to other things (possibly even for a previous marriage) and would wear again?

My two cents again.....
Petipois,

How symbolic and how much is she recreating?
Where I live (USA), couples spend a lot of time composing meaningful vows that they read to each other during the ceremony.
A special song ('their song') ....is their first they dance together as a married couple. The wedding dress is chosen to impress the groom for that all important walk down the aisle! The choice of rings is also symbolic.

If my son's bride insisted on things like he wear a certain suit, use an unusually different church, use same ring, same music or a wedding song that wasn't theirs, that would be a red flag. A fantasy where my son could inadvertently be a surrogate for the 'real' thing, would be very worrisome and what about when the fantasy is over?!

But, it may be that she truly loves her dress (and I hope that's all it is), AND if all her other wedding 're-dos' are inconsequential (as opposed to symbolic).....then and only then, would I do my best not to blow this out of proportion.

Baggs - yes I think it would bother a lot of brides if the groom wanted to wear the same suit that he had worn for previous weddings. I don't think this is particularly a m v f post. But I am starting to wonder if it is real!

Willa45 but how many of those meaningful vows last any length of time? Its not ABOUT a day ..its about a lifetime and surely a dress shouldn't be a bone of contention .Maybe brides should worry less about the frills ,the candy carts ,the most expensive ring and think about what comes after ...and I've spent over 40 years in the Wedding industry ,they get more and more lavish and sadly dont last ."meaningful vows" should actually MEAN something .I heard of a bride yesterday who was picking her wedding ring ,they apparently both wanted diamond band rings ...until she decided she wanted TWO diamond bands one for each side of her engagement ring and told him he could just buy a cheap silver ring and nobody would know the difference????? Is that what a marriage should be about?

Very odd, cannot imagine why she saved the dress in the first place after unpleasant divorce. Maybe it is a beautiful very expensive designer piece. Asked my happily married son what he thought, reply was he thought it very strange and surely she would want something unique to their relationship and very special day. He thought it was a bit creepy

very odd i can not think of any woman who would want to wear the same wedding dress even if it was hand made by elves and cost a fortune. its just going to be a rehash of first wedding. i wouldn't even wear the same dress to a wedding as a guest

I hired mine on basis I wouldn’t wear it again!

paddyann.....Yes....I completely agree with you that many marriages don't last forever and that there are couples who don't mean what they say or don't value sentiment at all.

This situation however appears to be the opposite....like many here have pointed out, why would any woman whose first marriage ended badly, commemorate that marriage by wearing the same wedding dress again?

So, unless I missed a thread, I'm still curious about other details surrounding her first wedding, that this bride intends to recreate.

What will you say when she surprises everyone with her new dress?

While you still can, change your mindset about her. To continue a suspicious way of thinking of her will result in YOU having a bad relationship with her. And ultimately, this behaviour could lead to them parting ways in years to come. Dont be that MIL...

It like Prince William giving Kate His mother’s engagement ring!

I would be much too superstitious to do that, why does she still own the dress?

Oh, I agree with you about that engagement ring, slightly unhealthy.
And I read somewhere that Prince Harry wants MM to copy his mother's wedding dress. I am hoping that was simply journaleese.
Entirely trivial, I know.

the dress didn't bring unhappiness, the marriage did so why not wear it again if she likes it!? It's not up to you what the bride wears - watch 'Say Yes to the Dress' (the US versions not the poor relation UK one!) for opinionated mums, mil's, sil's etc!

Some second thoughts......

Eebeew.....Not exactly the same thing.....this was Prince Williams first marriage.

Petipois

A mother's instinct is a very powerful thing and I don't think you're being unreasonable to be uncomfortable with your DIL's choice of dress.

Having said that, even if you are convinced that something is amiss here, the risk is high that you will create a permanent rift if you try to intervene. It's your son's wedding too...Let him sort it out.

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I would have happily got married in the same dress I wore for my disastrous first marriage. It was so beautiful, 1920s eau de nil silk with embroidery and bugle beads (not long and white, I hate the meringue look). My grandmother gave it to me but it was antique, fragile and just not up to it.

In the end I think society puts too much emphasis on the wedding, not the important bit that comes afterwards.
The worst thing a bride can feel on her wedding day is uncomfortable. If she loves the dress and feels great in it, that's the important thing.

This is an old thread. I wonder why it has been resurrected. Perhaps the OP can tell us how matters progressed!

At least she didn't look like this - I hope.

Cripes!!!!