To hope for help from husband?

Not at all, but good luck with any attempt to change him!

We have established that a lot of Gransnetters are married to the same man!

You are doing everything for him! He’s not a child. If he doesn’t empty his pockets, don’t wash his clothes - better still, get him to do his own washing. If he leaves the dishes in the wrong place, ask him to come and sort them out, telling him how to do it if he still doesn’t know.

I believe in consequences. That's how I taught my teenage sons to be responsible for themselves. If they left their clothes on the bathroom floor and not in the washing basket, they soon found they had no clean clothes. If they left wet towels on the floor, they found they had no dry towels. If they didn’t get up in time for school, they got into trouble for being late. It was their responsibility, not mine. It worked. I think you need to treat your husband like that!

I taught both of my boys how to care for themselves Grandma70s but I must say I enjoyed making sure all their clothes and bedrooms where done my way I really missed looking after them when they eventually left home.
OH is very well trained in the household dept he is in charge of dishwasher so everything is stacked properly I do however just out of habit check all his pockets as I have on other ocassions washed some £10 notes which needed ironing when dried.

Wish my husband was still with me to leave dirty dishes

I always check DHs clothes for tissues, but the last time one was left in the wash it was mine, oops, was halfway along the hall to tell him off when I noticed one piece of tissue had a small flower still visible.....

I also do the Dish Washer, maybe when DH retires he will do it, until then, as I have the time I am more than happy to do it, plus the housework, laundry and gardening.

Maybe I should start training him now do do these things, so that when he retires he can hit the ground running?

Hi Ukeleke 28
I'm a "newbie" here and just scouting around forums to find out what they're all about.
I've just been to one that seemed very political and then grin]wstumbled on this one when I took flight.

I don't know why, but your posting reminds me of a certain German singer/band leader I came across on YouTube (I'm hooked on his style. very soothing)
Named Max Raabe (q.v.)

He contends a woman needs a man for two reasons

(a) to open bottles of champagne.
(b) to fix things.

Perhaps you can console yourself thinking about that
next time you are cleaning up.

Good Luck

Just joking. Good luck with your training.

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Ok Rufus we get it...??

Ukeleke28
Sorry about that! They're right! I must be going senile after all. {blush]

Ukelele28
Hell's Bells. What's going on?

I really must be going mad. How can achieve six postings without even trying?

my OH has always been like that,leaves dishes by the sink,clothes and towels on the floor ,doesn't bother me at all.His mother still complains about him throwing dirty socks down the stairs when he was a teenager 40 odd years ago though .Everyone has different attitudes .It takes a lot more than some stuff left out to get me annoyed.Just chill,life's too short ,you'll miss those pockets to empty one day .

Rufus, I think you only need to click on 'post message' once!

It's OK Rufus2, I did the same thing the first time I posted. Ignore where it says contrl-enter go down to where it says post message and click on that.

If I complained about my H not emptying pockets he'd say it was my job to do the washing etc. - he did the house maintenance and decorating. He ignored the fact that when he was decorating I was the one fetching and carrying, driving him to the builders' merchants and washing out paintbrushes etc.

My long-gone ex used to get out of scrubbing pans and dishes with bits stuck to them by saying he'd 'just leave them to soak', but who had to finish the job after they'd soaked overnight? So it's no wonder that after he departed, I went and bought a dishwasher.
I must admit, however, that tissues in the wash are entirely my own fault and guess who once managed to launder her phone, left in the back pocket of jeans.

After about ten years of leaving pens in his shirt pockets even when he put them in the laundry basket, MrBaggs did seem to leave off that habit after the nth shirt (where n is a large positive integer) came out of the wash ink stained and the gold nib on his pen got spun a little too hard ?

Gramdma70 I'm with you - actions have consequences.

Ukelele you're not his skivvy!!

I'm sorry but he wouldn't have lasted in this household.

Baggs!

You've just struck terror into my unsuspecting heart! Mathematics and I had a lengthy hate/hate relationship long ago, and when I read your unexpected reference to it I felt instantly clammy and queasy! I'm shocked at how suddenly and strongly I reacted.

Too late, too late. You can't wait until they are retired to train them properly ;) my mil was a pain in the neck - but she did train her boys to do their bit, I'll always be grateful. Still check pockets through...

Thanks for your replies.*Rufus*haven't been doing this long myself and made the same mistake.
*Grandma 70s*I have considered this approach in the past (DM says it's what I should do) but have never been able to go through with it.
We've been married 36yrs so don't think there's much chance of him changing his ways! Just wanted to let off some steam earlier. Washing now done, dishwasher loaded and finished ? so until next time......