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To hope for help from husband?

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Ukulele28 Tue 10-Apr-18 12:14:04

I'm fed up with having to check DH pockets before doing washing. Over the years I have found many items ranging from screw drivers, money to a full wallet. Today I forgot to check and now have to wash everything again, as there was tissue in one of his shirt pockets.
We've had a dishwasher for about 10yrs. DH usually leaves his dirty crockery/cutlery next to the sink, even though I ask him to put it in the dishwasher.
If I'm lucky he'll do that but literally throws everything in. I then have the job of reloading before washing.
I know these are little things but I find them annoying, AIBU.

MagicWriter2016 Thu 12-Apr-18 19:11:23

Pittcity, you have stolen that thought straight out of my head lol!

To be honest though, life is too short to be sweating about this sort of stuff. Either carry on what you have always done or just stop washing his clothes. And as for his dirty dishes, I never understand why people rinse their plates ect before putting them into the dishwasher unless they are going to be sitting there for hours/days before switching it on.

f77ms Fri 13-Apr-18 09:38:49

magicwriter2016 because food left on the plates blocks the little holes in the arms where the water comes out ! so next time you use the DW lots of things come out dirty . I have two AS`s still at home , one rinses the plates , puts his clothes in the washing basket or washes them and tidies up the bathroom after himself . The other one does none of the above , strange because they have both been brought up the same , I think it is a bit of laziness as in the case of the OPs husband . You can`t teach an old dog new tricks but could tell him off mercilessly until he gets fed up of hearing you !

Ukulele28 Fri 13-Apr-18 11:55:09

Did washing yesterday. Checked pockets and guess what.....three £1 coins in one of his pockets.
Have told him finders keepers so I'm £3 better off!
f77ms he would just see that as nagging. One thing I've learned over the years is how good he is at switching off when he chooses ?.
As for changing him I don't think it's going to happen, and I really wouldn't want to.
Thank you for your replies everyone, never thought I'd get so many of you respond.