Funeral worries.

First funeral I ever went to I was aged 11 and it was for my niece who was just 1 week old. The sight of such an small white coffin was horrible and has remained with me for many years.
I have attended many funerals since then including both my parent's, however, the last funeral I attended was particularly harrowing as it was for a nephew and 2 of his friends...age 19, 18, 18 all sadly killed in a tragic accident that was not their fault.

mabon1 how sad and shame on your friends.

I wonder how it all went WildRoses , I am sure your presence was appreciated.

Unfortunately, like most people I have been to many funerals. If you are at a loss to say what is in your heart, perhaps by writing it all down in a sympathy card and handing it to bereaved may be of comfort to both you and them, particularly if a child has passed over.

I was at a close friend of my dads funeral last Thursday. Who was, like my dad, a life long Newcastle United supporter. The humanist service was both amusing and touching. In fact really lovely and a brilliant tribute to a lovely man.

I am at my DDiL’s grandfathers next Thursday .
2 thursdays in a row. Hopefully no more for a very long time !

The warmth and comfort from a real hug or a gentle arm around the shoulder speaks a thousand words.
At such occasions, as all our dear Grans have mentioned repeatedly, with so much happening, the grief overwhelming ....... it is your presence and sincere hug that will more than suffice and probably stand out.

Not everyone likes close contact though Panache
When my daughter's husband died I remember her saying
' If anyone else hugs me I will scream' We are not a demonstrative family.