I would be upset if it had not been pre agreed that birthdays were no longer going to be marked! It seems to me that your husband probably forgot til the last minute and then tried to make it sound like a decision. I would tell him that while a present wasn’t essential no meal out to celebrate nor a night off from cooking at home! Would have marked the day! A cake even a mini one would have been nice.
I would suggest that you lay this thought out calmly and clearly and see his response.
Lasr two letters continued Jan 24