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Don’t call me ‘love’

(171 Posts)
Bridgeit Fri 10-Aug-18 17:21:53

What next, I have just read a brilliant article from Coleen Nolan, apparently Gatwick Airport staff have been told they must no longer call customers Love or Darling , she is quite rightly horrified & so am I .
It is the thin edge of the wedge IMO, what happened to freedom of speech & social interaction
Yes I know it can be said in a derogatory tone of voice, but generally speaking it’s harmless isn’t it?

Bluegal Fri 10-Aug-18 19:56:52

Doesn't bother me at all either. Guess was brought up with people calling me 'love' maybe? I am mindful it is NOT the p.c. world now so don't do it myself but my husband calls EVERYONE love and I have told him - lots of people object to it now! He just says - tough!! bahaha

M0nica Fri 10-Aug-18 19:56:53

Its not what they say it is the way that they say it. 'love', 'lovie', 'dear' can just be an informal way of addressing anyone whose name someone doesn't know or it can be said in that deeply friendly patronising voice used by carers and others when talking to older people.

The first doesn't bother me at all the second has me foaming at the mouth.

Bridgeit Fri 10-Aug-18 20:03:06

Yes I agree with you there Monica .

Bluegal Fri 10-Aug-18 20:04:18

It would be interesting to know if different regions object more? I'm a northerner so "love" goes with the territory. Glawegians say "hen" for instance. Does anyone feel annoyed at this? (not me I would add). The potteries say "duck" - again any offence? Londoners use 'love' a lot also. I actually erm love it!

MissAdventure Fri 10-Aug-18 20:06:38

I'm in the south east; its used a lot here.

FlexibleFriend Fri 10-Aug-18 20:18:38

I'm a Londoner and grew up hearing the word love all the time, I never use it but it doesn't bother me at all, they can call me what they like as long as it's polite.

Day6 Fri 10-Aug-18 20:23:51

I am quite happy with any term of endearment and don't find it insulting or patronising.

As Annie says, if people are being friendly, it's alright by me. It's used a lot where I live. I like it.

Glitterknitbaby Fri 10-Aug-18 20:26:09

I was once called Queen by an elderly Liverpudlian visitor, I loved it. In the West Midlands everyone gets called Bab, I never mind but a bit strange when it comes from someone who is a lot younger than you are.

kathsue Fri 10-Aug-18 20:28:56

I don't mind what I'm called as long as it's not said in a patronising way.
On second thoughts one thing I don't like being called is "young lady". When I was young it felt like they were talking down to me, now I'm old it feels like they're taking the p***.

NonnaW Fri 10-Aug-18 20:30:34

Personally I’ve never been addressed as last ve or dear by anyone on airport security- usually you feel they are so harassed they don’t even address you personally at all. I agree with others, if it’s said in a friendly manner, I don’t mind how people address me. I really like the Cornish way, ‘my lover’ and suchlike.

lemongrove Fri 10-Aug-18 20:36:45

grannygravy ....I read your ‘fun suckers’ in the wrong way,
I don’t mind being called love really, but guess it’s not very professional from staff at an airport, especially when they are dealing with all nationalities.

Bluegal Fri 10-Aug-18 20:41:49

lemongrove IF I even got a SMILE at anyone at the airport I would be over the moon smile If they called me love I would be ecstatic... Are we speaking about customs? lol

annsixty Fri 10-Aug-18 20:44:27

I went to look round a carehome recently and the manager called all the residents we met " my lovely" , it was so false and so patronising that particular care home was crossed off my list straight away.
I don't mind love at all.

Luckygirl Fri 10-Aug-18 21:07:17

My geordie SIL sometimes calls me"pet" -I can live with it!! smile

Izabella Fri 10-Aug-18 21:15:19

Don't mind at all. However. I DO hate Marm as in the USA.

Charleygirl Fri 10-Aug-18 22:17:43

I hate being called madam and the last time somebody called me that, a manager in an upmarket supermarket, I told him that I did not run a brothel. He said that he had not thought of the word being used like that before.

Alima Fri 10-Aug-18 22:17:47

Don’t mind “love” at all. Really, really hate being addressed as “madam”. Sets my teeth on edge. Sooner have misses a la Ken Dodd.

MissAdventure Fri 10-Aug-18 22:48:04

I miss my mum calling me 'love' sad

TwiceAsNice Fri 10-Aug-18 23:10:23

I don't mind what I'm called as long as I'm not being patronised. I call my hairdresser darling, he doesn't mind, I checked!

Doreen5 Sun 12-Aug-18 09:55:43

Good news! I'm certainly not their 'Love' or 'Darling'.

Matelda Sun 12-Aug-18 10:00:05

I like being called "young lady" - it's an in-joke between older men and me, and I never mind. However, recently, my son took the proffered object off me, handed it to the woman behind, and said severely, "He can't possibly mean you, mum."

Tolaton21 Sun 12-Aug-18 10:00:14

No problem being called love, but the trend to write & say “Hun” at end of every sentence make me cringe !!
See you later hun !
All ok hun !
Text me hun !!
Give me love any day x

Nanny123 Sun 12-Aug-18 10:08:13

To be honest when someone calls you that it’s usually because they are nice. Far better than being someone that looks straight through you and says nothing.

tavimama Sun 12-Aug-18 10:12:36

I have the worlds worst memory for names - pretty much every child in the school I worked in was ‘sweetheart’ (unless they made themselves memorable for some reason!).

Likewise many adults - I never forget a face - but even MY name escapes me most of the time grin

henetha Sun 12-Aug-18 10:21:31

I don 't mind what people call me as long as they are friendly. It's all so harmless, and there are much worse things to get annoyed about. And I hate the erosion of all our little freedoms by the politically correct brigade.