annep I got married 43 years ago,we got money as a gift from my mothers next door neighbour,it wasfor a fridge freezer Thats what they told us and thats what we went out to buy .We came home with a chess set! The upside is we've had many fridges and freezers in our married life and only one much loved chess set.You cant/shouldn't give money gifts with strings attached.People have minds of their own ,surely you dont want your AC to live by your rules forever they must do what THEY want .Just like we and probab;y you did .
Wedding nowadys are not what they were and as a photographer who has taken thousands I can be sure of that.Its ALL about the couple now ,what they want comes first ,last and everything inbetween.The days when mums and dads got a say in any of it have long gone.Just enjoy the day and be glad you didn't have to do the organising .