This will be a long one,...
My daughter is 25, always been the black sheep of the family, a bit wild, lovely deep down but prone to wandering the wrong path.
She gave birth to our grandaughter almost 4 years ago, the Father was little involved; been in and out her life a little but into drugs, always getting raided so it all stopped.
We had the priviledge of our grandaughter living with us for 3 years, we saw all the "firsts'; smiles, teeth, crawls, steps, words and so on until she moved our with her Mum to start a new life with her Mums new partner who idolised them both. Nice family home all settled and happy, we knew they both did a bit of social weed nothing heavy.
In the summer it all changes, the lad moves out and on the same day another lad rolls in, the weed intake goes up, the house stinks; police get involved as it's a fesity relationship... he moves out and they're on their own... house becomes very unkept, daughters new best friend is on licence for dealing and her partners inside before long they're working a strip club.... before long other seedy things going on then she drops this girl...
In the meantime visits to the Father start up again until his house gets raided and my daughter gets a call from social services who then become very interested in her lifestyle and start arranging meetings with her and with us and we can't lie we were open and honest, we knew she was doing massive amouints of weed and doing coke and falling asleep while the little one was in the house because she'd been up all night so we won;t lie for her and we told the social, another member of our family were concerned and also reported her... a month ago she goes into escorting..... we stepped in a suggested our grandaughter lives with us hoping it would jolt her, nothing else has.. incredibly my daughter seems to agree.
So we feel devastated, the fathers made no effort and doesn't want her, the mother can;t be bothered with it all but undeniably loves her..
We adore her, do we want to take her on full time, not really, we've done all that, will we ? 1000% of course, this poor little girl tells us she loves her mummy and daddy it's ripping me and my wife to pieces; we idolise this little girl and feel so so sorry for her the two main people supposed to protect and care and give her a stable home won't do it we've practically co-parented her for 3 years its heartbreaking...
Sorry for the rant..I suppose i'm just getting off my chest, feel angry but also worried sick for our own daughter..maybe someone has experience of this type of thing, anyway thanks for listening.
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