Jane19 you were not over reacting, I think that sort of behaviour is absolutely disgusting and certainly not a way to show you loved anyone, rather just looking for attention and sympathy.
Cherrytree59 I completely agree with you. Unfortunately my father died alone in hospital, which was really not how he wanted to die. He was in a 4 bedded ward and we really didn’t get the opportunity to stay with him. We didn’t expect that to be the last time we saw him alive. My mother still talked about “if only we had pushed harder to stay with him 20 years later.
When it came to my mum’s time, she collapsed in front of me and I knew she had had a stroke, so phoned 999 immediately, however when we reached hospital they said she had had a massive bleed, with no chance of survival! They expected her to die imminently.
However she hung on for 3 days. I only left the hospital once to collect some clothes, my mum’s rosary and a photo of my father, to put on her pillow. Other family members did visit, but I insisted I wouldn’t leave her as I had promised her she wouldn’t die alone. She had a very peaceful, dignified death with me, my 3dc and 1 of my nieces with her. I felt it was the last thing I could do for her, before the arguments began!
I did take pictures of the flowers at the cemetery after both dad and mum’s funeral, but that was for me, not for others to see.