Do I go NC?

Ignore what she has said and carry on as before. Be polite when you see her but don't go out of your way to arrange anything. This would be my advice

Ignore it, not worth the user caused Be the bigger person

Troubled caused not user caused

I agree with mumofmadboys.

Well, if anyone told me they did not like my wife, I would very quickly inform them that if they do not like the person who has been closest to me for so many years, then they cannot be any part of my life.

A friend is someone who accepts you and all that surrounds you for what it is. Therfore, if they do not like or accept any part of that, then for me it would be, bye-bye.

Well what a strange thing to say to you after all these years. I assume she has her reasons but is reluctant to enlighten you. Very weird behaviour in my opinion.

I’d be wanting to ask her for details otherwise I’d be just worrying about it all.
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Some people just like to stir up trouble. If she can't justify her comments then just do as
momb says and ignore it.

Keep your distance.

Why tell you that then refuse to tell you why? How horrid. I'd keep my distance but leave the door ajar if she wants to be more reasonable about it.

Why is it bothering you now??

Poppyred -It's bothering me now because it's only recently happened. Thanks everyone.

I think let it go for now, was it just a bad day? See how it goes before doing anything irrevocable might be best. I think NC can make life more difficult especially as there may be family occasions which you both attend. Just don't go out of your way to make contact.

Polite but distant.

Avoid her and, more than anything do not trust her and if you have to communicate do not tell her anything personal or even impersonal she could twist, especially when she is pressing you for information, otherwise treat the silly old besom as just that. The less you seem concerned the more it will irritate her.

It is unlikely it is anything really serious - and if it is it did happen a long time ago.

A rocky relationship with a 'friend' who has a spiteful streak. Why bother?

It's a close family member, not a friend..

Some people just can’t help being troublemakers can they? I’ve got at least one of those in my family!
My choice would be arms length not NC.

can someone tell me what NC is please, its not on the acronyms list!

No contact Mossfar

NC = no contact

Carry on as normal, if your relationship is good with your husband what diference does it make what this person says.
If she was a good friend she would keep her mouth shut. None of us have the right to interefer with another persons relationships.

Blimey, have her remarks started you suspecting you DH of something?

Fie upon her!

If she won't tell you why she doesn't like/trust him, then she's just out to make trouble isn't she? And you have a history, she's not a nice lady.

But would you believe her, with her spiteful streak, if she came up with a reason? I hope not.

Keep your distance as namsnanny says we all have one in our family!

My opinion is ignore her totally, if she asks why, you say that unless she has proven grounds which she is willing to share with you, your DH is your partner and she has no right to be rude publicly without an explanation and she should keep her views to herself. If she cannot be civil and polite, to keep away.