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AIBU to mention scrotum-waxing?

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FarNorth Fri 19-Jul-19 18:34:44

An important case is underway in Canada.
Should female beauticians be legally obliged to provide intimate waxing services to transwomen with penises (men)?

https://www.thepostmillennial.com/there-are-only-losers-in-the-sad-saga-of-jessica-yaniv/?fbclid=IwAR3IN1H7GEk9zlUFlgv2Rwn6utQgpjYFDKgpHWEaenRsfqybliZWWP5st10

grannyactivist Fri 19-Jul-19 23:34:15

This case exposes some of the possible ramifications of gender self-identification.
www.spiked-online.com/2019/07/19/canadas-bizarre-trans-waxing-controversy/

grumppa Fri 19-Jul-19 23:37:21

I thought my first post made it clear that I was as concerned as other Gransnetters about the story behind this. Yaniv's legal action is appalling, and very worrying. My secondary point was based on my puzzlement that there should have been a reference to penis waxing, and was, if anything, intended to be lighthearted.

I thought that Gonegirl's response, which had she been of my sex would have been derided as mansplaining, deserved a reply, and I am sorry if gransal found it "odd and uncomfortable". Perhaps matters on Gransnet touching on male private parts should not be commented on by men.

Peonyrose Sat 20-Jul-19 07:37:10

Not a job I would relish.I wouldn't have thought it a job for a beautician, just think what could go wrong. If the client wants it done can't they do it themselves at least they could limit the pain. I wouldn't go down there doing that for either sex, it makes my eyes water thinking of it.

janeainsworth Sat 20-Jul-19 08:33:29

Like Grumppa I too thought of the Belfast bakers. The Supreme Court eventually ruled that they weren’t guilty of discrimination in refusing to bake the wedding cake for the gay couple.
I feel Jessica Yaniv’s transgenderism is not really the point.
He is just an extremely nasty individual who appears to be guilty of grooming young girls, and criminally exploiting vulnerable women.
The transgenderism is just a vehicle for that. I think there are a lot of people in the LBGTQ community who deplore this sort of exploitation of their movement.

Female nurses sometimes have to do things to men’s bits in the course of their clinical duties though.
So I’m not sure that beauticians who offer a waxing service should feel that waxing a scrotum is any different from waxing labia. Like nurses, they shouldn’t be emotionally involved in what they do.

TerriBull Sat 20-Jul-19 08:36:20

It will be interesting to see what the outcome of the ruling in this case will be, if it goes against the female beauticians, that will have serious ramifications for women. Surely basic common sense should prevail, but who knows in this strange new world we inhabit where we are being forced to deny basic biology. I'm not sure even referring to this person as "he/him" can't be deemed as a hate crime. One woman on MN was arrested in front of her children, by several officers for misgendering a transwoman and held in a police cell for quite a few hours.

TerriBull Sat 20-Jul-19 08:44:50

I think medics expect to have to deal with both male and female and do whatever is necessary as part of their job. I don't feel that beauticians who offer a waxing service for say "bikini lines" would anticipate having to deal with a transwoman with all her male parts. Possibly there are actual men, if we are allowed to say that, who want their intimate areas waxed but I imagine there are those who offer such a service to both sexes. I guess this person could have found one, but his actions aren't about that his mean spirited vindictive actions just want to punish and make an example of these women. In the meantime his questionable behaviour alongside young girls in toilets seems to go unchallenged.

Riverwalk Sat 20-Jul-19 08:47:39

Unlike the Belfast case where they did actually want a cake, I doubt very much that this individual really does want his scrotum waxed.

Just trying to make trouble from what I've read.

Jane I would think that beauticians would feel it's very different waxing a scrotum; after all they are not in the relative safety of a clinical setting, just faced with someone off the street who wants his balls fondled.

I'm a nurse and have attended to all manner of genitalia with catheters, washing, topical meds, etc. but have never shaved a scrotum.

Bathsheba Sat 20-Jul-19 08:52:47

There's a simple answer to the changing room problem. Instead of 'Male' and 'Female', have signs reading 'With Penises' and 'Without Penises'. Sorted. grin

Riverwalk Sat 20-Jul-19 09:01:34

The problem with that Bathsheba is it would discriminate against those who are genuinely transitioning but not yet had surgery.

ninathenana Sat 20-Jul-19 09:02:37

Beauticians deal with the genital area of both sexes. What difference does it make how someone identifies themself.

TerriBull Sat 20-Jul-19 09:03:37

Bathsheba it's not that simple there are "lady penises" now as opposed to the bog standard ones on mere men confused

TerriBull Sat 20-Jul-19 09:06:28

I imagine beauticians that deal with the genital area of both sexes would state that in the services they offer and can therefore make an informed choice as to what they are prepared to deal with. As I understand it these women were working out of their own homes, and as such, would probably only be comfortable with female clients anway.

Elegran Sat 20-Jul-19 09:15:07

The difference lies in the potential reaction of the individual getting the labia/scrotum shaved. Medical attention to the male genital area very often produces an automatic erection and consequently embarrassment to the patient or in some cases actual danger to the nurse. The nurse has colleagues within call, the lone beautician in her treatment room has nobody.

Nannytopsy Sat 20-Jul-19 09:21:08

On a lighter note, my S-I-L was used as a guinea pig by his beautician sisters to practise their waxing skills. He suffered the chest and the back but adamantly refused to allow them near the other parts of the back, crack and sac waxing they offered! That’s the term for the waxing offered by beauticians for men.

EllanVannin Sat 20-Jul-19 09:45:38

Pass.

Gonegirl Sat 20-Jul-19 09:57:12

grumpaa I was agreeing sith you - about no hair on the penis. hmm

I'm getting off this ridiculous thread. Think the thread should never have been started. It doesn't concern the UK, and won't.

Gonegirl Sat 20-Jul-19 09:58:55

Oh, I do like Bathsheba's post there. grin

MaizieD Sat 20-Jul-19 10:03:18

I on't know about you lot, but I found this , from the article FarNorth linked to, very chilling.

For some, as described in a blog post by B.C. NDP VP and potential candidate Morgane Oger, she is known for her alleged history of potentially predatory behaviour.

This includes her apparent interest in helping 11 and 12-year-old girls insert their tampons. WTF!!!

I realise that the issue at the heart of this case is SID, which has huge ramifications, but I can't help thinking that, while here in the UK we tend to try to legislate against the very worst, freakish even, consequences of an action (the dreaded Health & Safety...), Canada seems to have gone the other way with legalising SID. I think, on the basis of this, and other reports, that we should not allow SID in the UK because this sort of predatory advantage taking should just never be allowed to happen.

Gonegirl Sat 20-Jul-19 10:04:21

Yes. That is disgusting.And it's about one person. In Canada.

MaizieD Sat 20-Jul-19 10:04:52

It doesn't concern the UK, and won't.

It will if the UK makes SID legal. Which is being considered...

FarNorth Sat 20-Jul-19 10:11:31

Here's another facet of the situation in Canada :

Vancouver Rape Relief and Women’s Shelter, Canada’s oldest rape crisis centre, has been stripped of city funding after refusing to rescind its policy of only serving female-born women.

www.google.com/amp/s/nationalpost.com/news/canada/canadas-oldest-rape-crisis-centre-stripped-of-city-funding-for-refusing-to-accept-trans-women/amp

Reading that doesn't fill me with confidence about the verdict of the court in Yaniv's litigation against the beauticians.

FarNorth Sat 20-Jul-19 10:21:33

Gonegirl it's about how self-identification of sex and 'inclusive' legislation is working in Canada and how it could work in the UK if self-id of sex is brought into law here.

Here is a link about some Labour mayors of English cities who are urging Penny Mordaunt to bring in self-id as soon as possible.

www.msn.com/en-gb/news/uknews/labour-mayors-urge-government-to-speed-up-gender-law-changes/ar-AAEw9sn

GillT57 Sat 20-Jul-19 10:36:19

Apart from the sheer nastiness of this individual and his/her ability to manipulate the law, the sad thing is that genuine trans people will get condemned as well, will be supposed to be perverts and we will be back to the bad old days of discrimination and persecution. People, including law makers and administrators who should surely know better, are tying themselves in knots in an effort to be inclusive and non-discriminatory and are as a result discriminating against common sense and the rights of people who are not trans. If this can happen in a sensible country like Canada, it is frightening.

FarNorth Sat 20-Jul-19 11:01:34

Mixed-sex toilets anyone?
(already happening in many public venues)

this was the first time in my 37 years that I had encountered a man hiding in a toilet, waiting to follow a woman out of a cubicle.

www.thenational.scot/news/17674915.shona-craven-the-bogeyman-lurking-in-womens-toilets-is-real/

janeainsworth Sat 20-Jul-19 11:10:55

Riverwalk yes I take your point about the relative safety of a clinical setting.
Clinicians do have a duty to treat everyone with dignity & respect, irrespective of gender, sexuality, religion etc. It’s part of professionalism. I was just musing & playing devil’s advocate really.