Gillybob, just caught up with this thread, and everybody has said all that needed to be said, so I can't add anything new, except you are one wonderful mum, wife, grandma, and friend to all of us here on GN.
Chin up, gird your loins and tell it like it is to your selfish sister.
and yet more
Lack of public toilets in towns.
Passports not in the drawer I always keep them in. Turning the place upside down.