Firstly I don't use FB and I'm pretty certain my SIL knows. She uses it a lot,as my adult DCs sometimes show the odd picture, or comment on her posts.
I recently had a big birthday and it was my choice to keep it low profile.No worries about my age but genuinely hate hosting parties or being the centre of attention.More so now than ever.And all I wanted was a lovely relaxing weekend with DH,DCs and grandchildren.A lovely meal out and glorious sunshine helped.Unfortunately our DD was taken ill and in hospital suddenly so her and her partner couldn't attend.All is well now but rather a scare.
Point is SIL forgot my b'day.Absolutely no problem.In 40 years she has forgotten more than she has remembered.Sometimes turning up with something much later.Often not at all.I expect it now and honestly have no need for any gifts.And we eventually stopped buying for her family when we rarely got a thankyou.I have a very small but loyal group of friends who got thoughtful treats.And DH actually took me away for a surprise break .So all good.
However AIBU to feel annoyed that after the day she posted a message on FB with the usual party poppers emoji etc hoping I had had a lovely day.I only knew because another family member showed me.My feelings are phone / text or even call round and say hi.She lives near.Has my number.Especially as she knew our DD had been ill on the day.Asking about her would have meant more tbh than birthday wishes.
I've just phoned her to congratulate her on some good news but just come off the phone feeling peeved that I wanted to say in future don't bother at all if you're just going to use FB - where everyone else but me can see your gushy messages.Am I being a grumpy old woman .FB is a great way of keeping in touch I know,but isn't it just lazy not to actually talk to someone?
