Don’t want to go

Good luck whatever you decide...

I went. It was OK. I haven’t got an ‘infertility’ complex anymore. ?

Good. I hope you behaved yourself?. Was the daughter nice to you?

Be brave and be bold. Hold your head up high. Make it a challenge to yr own personal self esteem and go. For these reasons alone you will feel better that you had gone.

This was a fertile discussion Good for you Ohmother.

I can understand you feeling uncomfortable about going - they sound horrid. But, if it were me, I would go as it is about celebrating your friend's birthday and he might feel hurt if you didn't attend. Even if you made up a supposedly plausible excuse for not going, there would, I think, always be a niggling doubt in his mind that you just hadn't wanted to go.

Why not go but not stay too long?

Well done, I’m sure you did the right thing. You use relieved.

Glad you went and it was ok Om did you stay longer than an hour and sample the canapés ?
That’s what I would have done!
Then left when the conversation became boring boasting or demeaning, as is often the case at these things!!
I have a short fuse with one-upmanship competitions !

Just read read my post and it looks as though I was advocating stuffing my face for free then leaving in haste
I really meant stay as long as you are comfortable and it would be rude not to try the nibbles!!

As for infertility issues, not alone at a party for 70’s

Don’t go if you don’t want to. You’ll be miserable and possibly not exactly the life and soul of the party. Just make up a prior appointment and see your friend on your own later. Simples!

Just go and be polite.Its your friends birthday. If you don’t go it looks like you don’t like your friend enough to bother to go.No need to make loads of excuses. to leave . Say to your friend you are off and you will go out soon .Thank his daughter for the food and inviting you and just go! Don’t make such a big deal of the snobby daughter kill her with charm and kindness.