Still not met three week old grandson.

I keep popping on hoping for good news from Happygran. Thinking about you and hoping you'll get to see your GC soon.

Everyone posts to their own view and adds their own opinions and stories, why is that not appropriate? Entitled is catchphrase for OP unreasonably wanting what she wants when she wants.

Entitled is catchphrase for OP unreasonably wanting what she wants when she wants

What on earth do you mean Norah?

The OP has (in my opinion) behaved with the utmost of dignity and patience . I would have thought that a grandmother wanting to see her own grandchild was human instinct.

It’s not appropriate Norah because other stories which have accused the OP of being entitled and so on are based on nothing more than conjecture.

It’s a day off 4 weeks now! Bluddy ridiculous in my opinion. Precious new mummy much?
Jeez.

Norah it becomes inappropriate when posters pile in without having properly read or understood what the OP has asked and then criticise harshly, based on what they think they have read. This thread has many examples of people who fail to acknowledge any perspective except their own. Upthread, I made the point that with the little information given, there is little that can be said to help Happygran without knowing a bit more about her situation. She hasn't been back for a while.

Crossed posts SirChenjin. You put it much more succinctly!

Or the MN perennial favourite which is not always used in a complimentary way Urm - pfb (precious first born)!

I agree with everything you said at 16:42 Granny. I’m not a gran, my kids are nowhere near the baby producing stage, but even I’m a bit surprised at the GPs being told to stay away for 4 weeks, given there doesn’t appear to be a falling out or distance between them from what the OP says.

I’m beginning to realise how blessed I am with my DiL.
When she and DS had DGD1, we flew to America when DGD was 2.5 weeks old and stayed for two weeks.
DDiL and DS gave every appearance of being grateful for the shopping, cooking, laundry and getting up in the night to give GD a bottle, that we did during that time.

But presumably that would just have annoyed the hell out of some of the, dare I say it, entitled young posters who have come on here to have a good rant about their in-laws.

Happygran we’re all thinking of you and hoping you see your DGS very soon

GrannyLaine and gillybob OP does have a distinct wants that may not match those to her dil. I don’t understand why we can’t just pop round for an hour for a cuddle. An hour is a century whilst nursing. Just an opinion.

There are 672 hours in 4 weeks . Are you really suggesting that “the mother” is nursing every one of these hours Norah ?
I don’t think the OP ever meant that she wants to cuddle her grandchild for a whole hour anyway , but denying her even a few minutes is just plain cruel .

It has just occurred to me that my MIL didn't see any of my children until they were at least a month old. My mum on the other hand came and stayed each time for a week and helped, so held them when they were a few days old.. She lived further away than MIL. I really didn't think I might be hurting my MIL I do hope she wasn't hurt. It was certainly not intentional. Your DIL may just be being a bit thoughtless and focussed entirely on the baby.

But did you tell her to stay away trisher? If she had asked to come for a visit would you have said no ? That’s the difference .

Why the Quotes around mother?

Dil is the mother.

You only get denied of something that is your right

Cuddles are not a right. Visits are not a right. They are privileges

There is a huge difference:
1. Please let us know how can we help and see you guys, just want to take a peek.
Vs
2. It is already 3 weeks! I have been waiting long enough! Tell me when i can cuddle my gc for an hour

Very different approaches to the same purpose- meeting her gc.

Number 1 has way higher chances of success than no. 2

And how do we not know the OP hasn’t already tried the 1st approach ?

I am so glad I never had to beg to see my grandchildren for the first time after a month . So sad for the OP .

If she had tried the first one, i guess she didn't get the answer she wanted so she went through the second option.

A more forceful demand will not the case when you already didn't get the answer you wanted the first time you asked

Will not help the case

HappyGran hasn’t been back.

Perhaps we should all stop now until we hear from her? Maybe she’s been visiting even as we posted.
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Hithere that approach is so degrading for th. I would not recommend begging. I definitely wouldn't do it. I have too much self respect. You have a strange attitude I think.

Anne

You mean asking for a visit is degrading? I am not sure I understood your post

Don’t ‘guess’ Hithere - that falls under the heading of conjecture. It seems as if you’re intent on calling the OP a liar which is a shame and serves no purpose.

Ok, I am game

Why would she go to approach no. 2 if he already tried no. 1?

If she, sorey

Nope - I don’t do conjecture, I’ve already told you. You should stop the what ifs, your imagination is tying itself up in knots.