Guilt over my Mum

Dear dortie145, you sound fabulous and realistic.

Well done in getting your own bedsit. For what its worth, I couldn’t live with my father (97 and still VERY bossy) and even visiting for a few hours makes my blood pressure rocket!

And don’t believe all the people who claim happy home lives, some of them of course will be happy, but others will be bullied and some will be bullies themselves.

Enjoy your small home by the sea. ?

Currently have DD and partner living in our home.
It is working ok but we both will be more content in a home of our own .
I sometimes need to hold my tongue,it can be the small things that cause disagreements,and she has a powerful personality.
Like your son Dortie they are not paying rent.I understand where you are coming from with that,my husband's sister said "I don't know anyone else who would do that".
My own mother lives some distance away ,unfortunately it would be very stressful if she lived with us.My husband said we would split up.At nearly 80 she is in great health,but I do worry that if she became unwell I would be unable to help.
I think you are doing the right thing,Look forward to your home .Look after yourself.
" Thanks mum for the help when I needed it,but now we both need our own space."

You're doing the right thing. Here in Austtalia, a similar realtionship became so toxic that the daughter killed her mother, when said mother complained the lamb chops were not hot enough.
No more to be said

Dortie145, your future bedsit near the beach sounds lovely. Enjoy. Tillybelle, good for you taking in those rescue dogs.

Don’t feel guilty both benefit and get on much better say once or twice a week. When you’ve lived on your own a long tor’s hard to Ashton sharing again x

Hard to Adjust to sharing again I meant ?

Dortie - my financial issues started with something VERY similar! The initial figure has morphed into something unsustainable now I am unable to work

It may be a bedsit - but it will be your bedsit, your space - mine is invaded and we just do not get on and I hate it sadly but need to support her as she literally has nowhere else to go ....

Sorry GNetters, all these comments made me so sad. I would dearly love to have some time with my Mum. I didn't realise how much I loved her until the day I had to let her go. She was so very poorly and totally exhausted that she could fight it no longer.
Give your mum, despite your difference, a big hug, put the differences aside and tell her you love her. She won't always be there.

H1954, we don't all have the same feelings about our mothers. I never got on with mine. When she was very elderly, I felt sorry for her, of course, did my duty and visited - but only really for the sake of my siblings. There was no bond and when she died, all I felt was relief.