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Want to scream at husband....

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Classic Sat 21-Mar-20 11:15:22

We are both in early 60's well and working. At his work, lots of people have gone off to self isolate so hes had to do extra. Yesterday he decided he felt hot so would stay home. He put on social media that he was off with a temperature. I took his temperature and its not raised at all. Hes sitting with his outdoor wear fleece on top of a tee shirt, and it's still not raised! Today he has popped out to the shops and is talking about going back to work, I've tried explaining to him that now hes declared himself as having a temperature to work and the world, then he and I have to self isolate for 14 days. I need to work, and I have a dying mother I need to spend time with. Thanks to his feeling like a duvet day, and getting sympathy on social media, I now feel that morally I should be in isolation at home for 14 days, the last thing I needed, yet I know hes fine and has shown no symptoms at all. I want to scream at him, ( yes I want to wring his neck too) His reasoning is that he doesnt think he has Corvid19 and he should be okay to go about his normal life, that as he is now saying he might only be coming down with a bit of a cold on social media, he should be able to carry on as normal. The repercussions for me are that my family now think I must stay home, stay away from our mum, not go to work, all for a prat saying he had a temperature when he doesnt. sad

Namsnanny Mon 23-Mar-20 14:38:39

classic do as Sussexborn sparklefizz suggest. Should make people laugh as him. They dont like that, so you'll get your revenge!!grin

MawB Mon 23-Mar-20 14:42:04

I have over the last 2 years often wanted to scream at mine
-for leaving me alone
-for denying his grandchildren years of his gentle company
- for dying before his time at just turned 70.

I was never incandescent, distraught and largely inconsolable though.

AGAA4 Mon 23-Mar-20 15:29:31

MawB. My husband died aged just 50. I am so sad that he never saw his 6 lovely grandchildren. Like you I felt angry with him for going and leaving me but those feelings have passed now and I just remember happy times. flowers

BradfordLass73 Sat 28-Mar-20 21:49:08

Good grief Grandad1943 has it taken this Forum to wake you up to the real world? Well, thank goodness for that. NOW you know what we have to put up with.
Mind you, untidy, ungrateful men are infinitely preferable to pompous, opinionated, self-deluded ones, so it's not ALL bad.

Presumably you've lived with this irritating Drama Queen a number of years and have some sneaky ways of controlling him and getting your own back? If not, I can advise you on herbal "remedies" which might.

I guess he wants to go back to work because he sees you need help and are under stress and he's just not up to being supportive, him having the beginnings of a cold, poor soul.

Maybe you should swap him for one of the paragons Grandad1943 knows?

Care to play Cupid, Grandad? I'd suggest a man like Anteros, rather than Himeros, as I detect Classic is not quite up to that particular challenge at the moment.

suzette1613 Sun 29-Mar-20 06:48:43

Bradfordlass73 😂

BlueBelle Sun 29-Mar-20 07:35:29

I m alone, husbands both long divorced I don’t feel nearly so bad about it now
I can be tidy I can be a slob I can eat I may not I can channel hop or sit and stare
I have a hot water bottle

Traviata Mon 30-Mar-20 10:59:54

On the subject of extra time with partners - after 20 years of living alone my new man ( 3 years into our relationship) has moved from his London flat to my house in rural Lincolnshire for safety and isolation purposes.
God it’s difficult, I’m not sure I can stay the course - are they all so damn lazy? Should I be more understanding? Or am I being difficult? I’m not his mother!

Sparklefizz Mon 30-Mar-20 11:02:56

I feel for you Traviata. I have no answers but it looks like it might be a long haul and you may need to rethink before he gets too settled in.

SalsaQueen Mon 30-Mar-20 12:34:41

Well, my husband was due to go back to work this week, but the factory where he works closed last week, for the foreseeable future, as
a) their work is non-essential (they make large signs for banks, shops, petrol stations, etc) and

b) they would not be able to ensure that workers could be 2 metres apart from others.

Him Indoors is going to be at home for AGES. I, on the oter hand, am still working in the mornings, and I've signed up for the NHS volunteer scheme, which starts tomorrow.

GrannySomerset Mon 30-Mar-20 12:39:18

This house is in danger of being renamed The Bickerage if this togetherness goes on and on.

LightAmber Wed 01-Apr-20 20:15:53

I keep being asked why the golf courses are closed and being given reasons why they shouldn't be.

He doesn't play golf. Never has. So why is He do bothered ? hmm

Luckygirl Wed 01-Apr-20 20:18:36

MawB - I hear you. flowers

KayKay Wed 01-Apr-20 23:20:51

I would be very cross as he hadnt thought this thru... and not considered how his declaration to the world would affect your life. Make him get tested and then he can declare the results. 😊

FoghornLeghorn Thu 02-Apr-20 20:12:36

Classic. Yes, I can understand you wanting to strangle him. I’d tell everyone concerned that you took his temperature, it wasn’t raised and he was just being a drama queen. I’d be so cross with him too.

SirChenjin Thu 02-Apr-20 20:42:52

I can imagine how frustrated you are with him - that’s not great behaviour sad I’d do what others have suggested and make it known it was a false alarm.