BBQ lockdown

I've just arranged for a date for my cleaner to start coming again, but as she's had to take other new clients on to keep afloat in meantime,she cant fit me till nearly end of june- ok i guess, BUT by sound of all the mingling already we will back on bl**dy lockdown again by then!! It makes me so angry- why cant they wait? Or at least stick to guidance given?! I've really struggled without my cleaner as I've got very severe osteoarthritis, & my sons try but both have disability so cleanings been 'sporadic' when we need it most! But at this rate we'll all end up on lockdown again and for the rest of our lives! Why cant they have some sense!

I didnt keep cleaner on for lockdown as we all have 'underlying medical issues' so thought it safer not to have anyone else in our home.

One of our neighbours has had BBQ's every weekend since the beginning of the lockdown. They have three grown-up children who turn up every w/end with partners and children. Great fun is had by all ... except for the neighbours! Once the BBQ get's going (with the help of some kind of very smelly lighter fluid?) all you hear is people round about forcefully closing windows and doors. We do the same and I swear our doors get banged louder every week! We are so fed up with it we are just about ready to turn the hosepipe on them!

In the meantime, we and several other neighbours have been shielding at home, not seeing friends or family and feeling pretty low for much of the time. My husband is waiting for an operation which was cancelled at the end of March, it is all very depressing.

Now foolish people are chucking themselves off the cliffs at Durdle Dore with hundreds of others crowding onto small areas so that rescue helicopters can land on the beach. Plus that poor man in America and the riots what on earth is happening to the world? Sorry to go on but honestly it is enough to make you cry or get very angry which is how I’m feeling right now. But it's OK we can all go out on Monday not that anything has really changed. The virus hasn't gone but that's fine off you go there plenty of hospital beds available at the moment!

People have been socialising right from the start of lockdown. Grandparents seeing grandchildren, families having elderly vulnerable relatives round etc and then saying isn’t it awful the lockdown and not seeing relatives! Or saying I’ve been naughty and caught up with .... We haven’t and it’s made me cross but also depressed. Tomorrow I will see my daughter and grandchildren for the first time and I am really nervous. Going to spend today cleaning the bathroom. People have had BBQ’s not many have been charcoal though.

Prof Van Tam said something that made sense yesterday - it’s now ok to meet in a gathering of 6 keeping social distancing. But to be sensible. If you see 5 people in the morning, 5 different in the afternoon and another 5 in the evening that is a lot of people and the potential for catching Covid is far greater than keeping to just 5 for the day. He said we had to be sensible and use common sense. Mmmm not everyone has common sense?

As with anything, there are ways....and ways...of doing things. For many people, lockdown has hardly altered the way they behave whilst others have adhered to government advice to the letter. I don’t think there’s anything you can do...but it does understandably lead to feelings running high. About the bbqs, I don’t think Boris has the slightest notion really of how close many people live to each other and the implications. Our neighbour has the most disgusting and too frequent bbqs that cause us to shut our doors and windows, whereas if I say so myself, if we have the odd one, you’d barely know, as its slow and discreet. Seems some people need to have fast, furious and suffocating bbqs every day ...it’s not good.?

Whether the barbecue is today, or tomorrow, hardly is going to matter, is it? Also whether it's six, or ten people there is not going to make much difference. When you think of the rush hour on trains now, that is what I call untenable. Social distancing is what is important.

If you don't like other people's barbecues is another matter. I hate the smell of them but people like to have them on a summer's day and they are entitled to have them in their own garden. I'd hate to think that we've turned into a police state by snitching on our neighbours either.

Let's be realistic. This virus will be with us forever now and the only cure is a vaccine, which I hope will be found by the autumn.

I'm well over seventy and in the highly vulnerable category, live on my own and would prefer it if others consider what they are doing. However, it's lovely weather and folk are trying to make the best of things.

some of my neighbours also having barbecues daily, have to stay inside and shut the windows, one neighbour had a party all day Thursday day time then again Friday until later in the evening, children, visitors, barbecue and lots of noise, they have health problems themselves just dont no what they were thinking, its inevitable that numbers of covid 19 deaths and illness will go up if we dont stick the the rules

I have never understood the obsession with barbecues and I have more than once refused invitations to join in one of these rituals. Standing in the open in what are often quite chilly evenings to endure the smoke and smell of often under-cooked food is not my idea of a good evening. If you must be outdoors, why not cook your food indoors and then carry it outside?

From sunny mid-Wales,
We are all still alive to enjoy the weather!!! Why moan? There are a lot of people who would like to be out here enjoying the sunshine too!

When you plan to move house, always inspect the neighbours!
Maybe they should have invited Nanderin!

I’d have been tempted to set a garden sprinkler going so that part of the fallout was in their garden.

I did have my son and grandson in my garden yesterday, as grandson going home to today. He lives about 200 miles away, and he stayed with his dad near me for all of lockdown. We won't see him nor now until August. But he's 13 we social distanced. He did have to use toilet But I'd sprayed it all before and after they left. And all the chairs they sat on. To be truthful I felt safer than when I've been out for my walks.

We also have a gas BBQ with lid which we used prior to the lockdown and will use for the first time this year next week. Can't be as offensive as neighbour's smelly bonfire.
I think if we've reached the stage where we're counting how many in a neighbour's garden and contemplating calling the police on them, then we have reached a sorry state. Perhaps worry about those travelling to and from work on public transport, not able to socially distance and have work places where social distancing isn't possible, rather than whether or not your neighbours have one extra person in the garden.

Boris released lockdown for political reasons imho not because it’s safe. So no Nanderin I don’t think you are BU.
Boris should pass a law making lids on bbq’s compulsory. Filling other people’s houses with smoke is so selfish. Smoked meat or charred meat is the most carcinogenic thing you can eat. Not to mention raw uncooked meat. Civilised behaviour is on a downward slope in some places in UK - I blame soap operas and Gordon Ramsey.

We will use our gas barbie with lid again next week. This thread seems like a load of old codgers with twitching net curtains and a lot of tutting. I love to sit outside on a lovely sunny evening enjoying a glass of wine and having prepared the salad DH cooks the food. I will add that his meaty foodstuffs are never undercooked and my veggie burgers are cooked to perfection. I love to hear people and children enjoying their barbecues in the garden and the only problem we have with smoke is the smoke that comes from the bonfires wafting across our gardens from the allotments that back onto our gardens. I could complain about my at risk elderly neighbours who have had more visitors in their garden during lock down than they usually have.

Absolutely disgraceful! All those people on the beach in Dorset yesterday, then herded together like cattle so that the air ambulance could take away irresponsible idiots who thought it would great fun to jump off the cliffs. Unbelievable! Second wave on its way I am afraid. I am pleased that here in Wales we have taken the slow and steady route, only travel 5 miles to visit friends and family. Which for me means we can’t see our daughter and granddaughters as they live 25 miles away! But yes, I am pleased. Hopefully next review in 3 weeks will bring us closer. Have a good day everyone. ??x

They’re risking a second wave, which could kill us all.
Here’s a painting by Juan Lucena, showing grandchildren who didn’t get to say goodbye to their grandparents due to Covid 19 ??

Some people enjoy BBQs, others don't - I'm not a fan - but as another poster here said, a lot of you are very judgmental about what other people do.

The people were in a garden. There were 8 of them, 2 more than the number "allowed" - so what? It's hardly a crowd. I think we all have to be responsible for our own actions and do what we see fit. I'm sticking to "the rules", but honestly, we're more at risk of getting the virus when we're in a shop or on public transport. Let's not all become hysterical.

Same old story it doesn’t apply to me. Pathetic.

You cant police your neighbours. Try reporting them and you wont get far. My son is a call handler for the police and all their time is taken up with these calls. There are real crimes happening and people threatening suicide. He is frankly fed up with people reporting neighbours.

I don't see what is wrong with a barbecue, I am over 60 but I sill enjoy this, love sitting in the garden with a glass of wine and bq going, its the only enjoyment we have at the moment as can't go anywhere as all the facilities are closed.at least in your own garden you are safe.

What makes me is that we are told we can bbq so people all have one . We were told you can walk in your area , so people do , told you can sit in a park, yep people do it .
I wonder how many would do it if they were told now your grass in the nude ! I'm going to keep my curtains closed incase

I can't have my bedroom windows open because the 499 bus terminates just outside and three times an hour it sits there for up to 20 minutes making 80decibels of noise. I've complained to the council TFL and my husband even went to the bus garage, still sweltering in isolation in my bedroom

Mow !

Its started already- ive opened my bedroom window to let air in,was going to leave it open for the day but can smell smoke already- now have to close it and bedroom will be stifling by bedtime! So thoughtless these people! Its the chinese(!) neighbours- theyre burning bloody plastic that they should be recycling! We all have a big enough recycling wheelie bin. The nice young family on other side have a whole line of washing out poor beggars!

The trouble is the likes of these idiots are putting others lives at risk!!
And when Scientists and many medical professionals are concerned that lockdown has been ended much too soon, we need better and a more solid leadership that wouldn't encourage this behaviour opening beaches was the start of all this disregard of others lives, including the NHS staff that will once again be put at risk when we peak for the second time
Only our government could mess up like this.