Firstly, I urge you to contact RELATE who are the specialists in relationship counselling - you don't have to go with your husband (or find a local counsellor you feel comfortable working with). You desperately need someone outside the relationship (and even your family) who has no agenda for you and is totally impartial, to talk this through - it's a big decision. Secondly, consult a solicitor so that you know exactly what the courts would be likely to conclude (as others have said, just because the house is in your name, doesn't mean you can hold onto it). Also, make sure you have copies of all his financial investments, dealings, etc (partners have been known to hide all this when they realise that they are heading to the divorce courts). Personally, I wouldn't tell him what you're doing until you've decided what's best for YOU (after doing work with a counsellor and seeing the solicitor). You never know, he might agree to go to relationship counselling with you but if he doesn't, then at least you'll be in a much stronger position. Preparation is the key.