AIBU to get a bit annoyed every year with SIL giving us a Christmas card from a pack.

Yellow canary, my sister and i always make a donation to a homeless charity in lieu of cards not sent. I would prefer not to get cards either especially a 'special" one.

I love getting cards and writing them too. I also like newsletters! Don’t always get round to doing them myself. I always buy charity cards - try to match the charity to the person - eg RNLI cards to sailors - never crosses my mind to to get worked up about the type of card we receive - just glad to be remembered!!

I don’t send cards at all...I donate to charity instead...

I make my own personalised cards

This is a vexed question. I had to have a word with myself when I found myself annoyed at the cheap & nasty card a friend sent to me. When her birthday came round I was riffling through my card stock thinking, “ This is good enough for her, as she has no aesthetic sensibilities.” Don’t I sound horrible?

I always used to buy 'special' cards for all my family which cost me a fortune, then I started receiving the cheap 'standard' rubbish you buy for the neighbours, so I stopped doing it for everyone apart from my partner, sons and my best friend, now everyone else gets a card out of a box, albeit a very nice one, usually at least £4 for about 6 cards as I only send about 10 anyway.

So, if you're funny about it, just start doing the same as they do. The majority of xmas cards ends up in the bin/recycling after the holiday anyway

I got a special card for the first time this year. I didn’t recognise the names. After puzzling it out for some time, I worked out that it was somebody up the road’s mum who lives the other end of the country. I was actually very touched to get a personal card and bought and sent one back!

Surely, the important thing is that she sends you a card?

I think it sounds very ungrateful to criticise the card you get.

If it annoys you this much, send her an "ordinary" card.

I've never heard of anyone sending the milkman a card!

YABU to complain about such an unimportant thing.

I stopped cards many years ago always send a donation to Salvation army it's a family thing

I write my own message on ordinary cards and it lets people know that I am still alive.

Yearoff

Sorry I do think YABU. I only buy a special card for my mum (I’m widowed so no hubby). Everyone else gets a good quality box card. I only posted 21 this year. One abroad and 20 2nd class. Cost was over £17. So expensive.

Again....... read the thread ! OP has replied very graciously. She does not need to be told YABU. Any more!!

Wibblywobbly

YABU to complain about such an unimportant thing.

Please read the thread.

This year I have been very unwell and received quite a few get well cards throughout the year so took this Christmas as an opportunity to send a card with a short Thankyou for their support and well wishes etc. I was horrified at how much I ended up spending between cards and postage - almost 60euro!! So next year will be back to the scaled down immediate family and for those I usually do but special cards. I don’t however expect them in return, I’m just happy to get one.
It’s not something I’ve even thought about tbh so I think you are being a bit unreasonable x

Happy Christmas Kadinsky.

Sorry just to add I only think you’re being a little bit unreasonable though as your sil has probably not even given it a second thought xx
I’ve not seen your updated posts but didn’t mean to sound harsh.
Happy Christmas x

Kandinsky If you are still reading this and not tearing your hair out I think you are being very reasonable indeed . Your replies were very gracious, and to be ignored by people who are not gracious enough to have read them but still see fit to be unkind to you must be infuriating.

Merry Christmas from me too.

Doodledog I agree. I was reading this thread again and hoping the Op wasn't. SueDonim even quoted the Ops response some time ago and a lot of people didn't even read that.

Shame it's not easy to see the responses from the Op when you post, especially where there are pages and pages to read through, to get the latest updates.

Or maybe it should be possible for the Op to request a thread to be closed once they have the answers they need.

Cards that are hand drawn by my grandchildren are the only cards I consider special.

It’s the thought that counts, surely.

GNHQ...please could the OP responses be highlighted ? This drives me nuts seeing people chiming in well after OP has replied and the whole thing is supposedly sorted !

I used to get a card from my MiL To my son and his wife. I hated it because it made me feel “the other”.
It’s a personal taste I suppose but so called “personal” mass produced cards I find cringe worthy.
Home made and GCs cards are completely different.

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Why buy cards for family, if you see them why not say “Merry Christmas” to them in person. (Socially distanced in an outside space of course!)

That's why they have money. They are frugal.