AIBU to get a bit annoyed every year with SIL giving us a Christmas card from a pack.

Bah humbug buylocal!!??

I send special cards to my DGC and my DD and my DS but I never get one back from DD and I am not in the slightest upset by it.

that went well, then, Kandinsky

No wouldnt milkman a card! (Even if i had a milkman) or postman or delivery people! (Who would do that?) Unless youre upper class& maybe thats how you'd 'slip them a xmas tip'?

*wouldnt give

Yabu.

I'm afraid I am that dil. We dont get gushing cards for the in laws from us or ds. And ds has never sent a "To my wonderful Grandmother on Mothers Day" card.

Yesterday, I had the idea to take a photo of really lovely card and then whatsApp it to a few people that I don't send cards to.

Just charity cards for everyone from me, I'm afraid. I'm not a fan of the "special" ones either. Each to his own though! But I don't think you can complain about the quality of something which has been freely gifted to you. A snigger in private about the really naff ones is all you're allowed - and should never be uttered out loud.

I’m sorry to read some rather unpleasant replies to the OP.
Of course, any card is better than none, but I’ve read previous posts from the OP, some of which are quite sad.
I hope she doesn’t take some of the brusque replies to heart.

I used to send a special card to my parents because they were of "that" generation who sort of expected it, and also I did think the world of them and always wrote a special message on it too. But for everyone else, all other relatives, a nice "ordinary" card. I always buy charity cards though. It seems less of a waste and more in the Christmas spirit.

Nobody should be judged by the style of card they send. Just receiving a card is a lovely way to say ‘you aren’t forgotten’.

I buy charity cards, but send ‘special’ cards to my daughter and son-in-law, and to my grandson.

I would hate not to have cards at Christmas, and live adding all the little messages in them. By the way, I also give to charity at Christmas.

Well I'm another one that buys the special cards for my closest family. I've just returned from shopping for the last two. I don't expect my DSs to buy a special one for me, but I enjoy chosing the cards. My eldest DS would be disappointed if a didn't give him the slushiest card I could find. It's a standing joke. Unfortunately for the first year, I didn't have to buy a card for either of my parents and I felt so sad.

Yes you are being unreasonable!

Agree totally

It may help to turn this around, would you be offended if you were asked to send them an ‘ ordinary card’
The sending of a card & the contact is surely more important than the style and size
Merry Christmas . Or, MERRY CHRISTMAS ??Best wishes

My late father had to spend a very short time at a Marie curie hospice , before returning home to spend his last days where he wanted to be. Since then my sister and myself donate any money spent on Christmas cards and postage to Marie curie . Xx

Yes. You are I think

Lol it's a YABU from me too I'm afraid. My recipients get what they're given and because I hate writing cards they should be grateful they get anything at all :D

I do send special cards to family and to friends who have gone the extra mile on my behalf during the year....everyone else gets Charity cards and I make donations to the Lifeboat and the Salvation Army with extra money I would have spent on 'Specia' cards.........I have to say I do really treasure two special cards I received on the last Christmas before they died, from my Dad and from my Brother, saying 'Daughter' and 'Special Sister;......I keep them in a frame as they mean a lot to me ............otherwise I chop up all others and recycle them ....cuttg up some (especially those with a cat on !!!) to make gift tags next year ................each to his own ! I have friends who never send cards but just an e mail ...that is also fine by me ! it is after all, the thought that counts......Happy Christmas everyone !

I have to agree with most of the posters and that YABU,many GNers would love a card from a pack so be grateful for what you have its the thought behind it that counts as said above by MiniMoon

I bought a beautiful card in M&S for my Mum, Charity card in aid of Hospices, quite expensive but she is 91 & I can't see her as she's in Tier 3, we live 300 miles apart.

I always buy my DD & DiL & DGSs special cards & receive special cards from them.

Each to their own, I also keep my special cards.

Personally I don’t like the “to my brother and family” sentiment on cards. I somehow feel it’s like he is the important one and his wife and family are further down the pecking order. I feel the same about “son and daughter in law” or people that treat step or adopted children or grandchildren differently to biological ones when it comes to birthdays, Christmas’s extra

I buy a special card for MIL ,used to buy one for my own mum too and my youngest GD got a baby's first Christmas one last year at the request of her sister who was still staying with us and "helped" to choose cards .
My daughter designs and makes her own cards and always sends us one with a beautiful personal message in it,her MIL makes little crosstitch cards and gift tags to match last year my cards were a lovely wee robin.I keep all that she has made and have a plan to frame them .I'm not crafty so its ordinary shop bought from me

Oh dear, you're a bit pathetic aren't you. Everyone should stop sending Xmas cards and give the money to charity.

Those cross stitch cards are really lovely paddyann my friend always used to send me one then she became ill and couldn't send them any more. I have kept them all,