AIBU to get a bit annoyed every year with SIL giving us a Christmas card from a pack.

I always buy special cards for family and special friends, but I have no expectation of what they send to me, or if they gave decided not to send to me at all, that's fine. Apart from the ones from grandchildren they all go in the bin in January. Try not to over think it, pour a glass of something you enjoy in the knowledge you have done what you enjoy doing for family at Christmas, that is all you can do. Merry Christmas ?

I think if someone takes the time to write and send you a card then that's all that matters

I make all my own cards. I am a crafter so it comes naturally. I do make my cards to make them personal & I really enjoy making them so it is a win/win plus it is a heck of a lot cheaper.
What always gets to me is that the first cards that arrive are usually from people we have not seen for years & have decided not to send to anymore- such as people we met in holiday in Greece about 8 years ago!

Extremely unreasonable. Its the thought that counts. Is this perhaps a 'wind up' post???

Read the whole post folk. The original poster has replied very nicely a few times and thanked people for helping her to give her head a wobble.

I buy special cards for my immediate family charity cards for everyone else

I have always sent special cards, thoughtfully chosen, to close family. This year though, I haven’t been near a shop since March due to being vulnerable. I ordered cards online from a local charity and everyone has been sent one of those. This Christmas is different in so many ways. Let’s just be thankful we’re safe in these troubled times!!

I would never buy "special cards". Surely what makes a card special is the personalised note that the sender writes inside the card?

I must say I do buy a card for DH different to the ones I send to everyone else. I wouldn't say it's 'special', it just has more relevance to us. This year I bought one with two Christmas trees leaning together as we've had one of those years when a lot seemed to go wrong for us. He finds it hard to talk to me about things, so I buy him a card to let him know I understand. (If that's cringe making then I'm guilty.)

I think there are more important things to think about than this.

We dont buy cards - especially expensive ones which often don't recycle. Slight exceptions are for elderly relatives and friends - less than half a dozen - who don’t have the internet or mobiles to receive greetings. We make a donation to a charity instead of sending cards. Sometimes my grandchildren give me home made cards - but not this year as I won’t see them!

Sorry Kandinsky but even though you are annoyed at your s-i-l for not going out to get you a special card I do think YABU!
This year is particularly difficult with lockdowns etc and many don’t want to go out especially to card shops which can be very overcrowded. Also “special” cards can be very expensive and it can be hard to find just the right words inside. Does your s-i-l write your names in her card or just sign it? That for me would be more annoying.

@yellowcanary @Doodledog I have donated a sum of money to a local animal sanctuary this year in lieu of Xmas cards. I sent emails to friends with seasons greetings and also explaining about the charity I follow. One of my friends emailed back saying she wanted to make a donation on my behalf then sent me pic of the receipt for her donation to the animal sanctuary I had chosen.

At present there are so many extremely important and serious issues to think about and being sent a box card should come very low on your list of priorities ??‍♀️

First time I have got to understand what AIBU means! Yes UABU

Its not the cards that cost so much, it's the postage. My friend recently posted hers, she had a shock when the lady behind the counter said £45 please. That's why a lot of people buy boxed cards, its does save a bit of money.

The special cards are usually too cheesy, far better a charity card. After all what happens after Xmas? The cards all get binned. Far better to donate something to a homeless charity with the money saved.

I have always bought 'special' cards for my two sisters as we live apart and didn't get to see each other at Christmas. They are always chosen for the fitting wording inside and were never the same. Unfortunately I lost one of my sisters a few years ago and it still makes me sad when I buy for the remaining one and I am not buying the two. My sister sends me one too and it is very special to me. My son and daughter live abroad now so they get them too.

Sorry Kandinsky but I agree with many others. I love sending and receiving Christmas cards but I have never bought, or indeed received, a special one. I always buy packs of charity cards and everyone on my list has the same card. I write a short personal message inside each one.

Maggiemaybe- sainsburys are right cards! Lol. I ordered a special dessert last xmas an 'ice cream chocolate bombe' they sent me a bath bomb! (I handed it back- i only have a shower!) ??

Most years I buy 'better' cards for my family, this year I have had to "go with the flow"
Maybe it's the same for your sister?

Cards are a waste of money and resources and special cards even more so. I am confident my special people know I love them without me having to say it in a card. If people want to support charities then they should give them the money along with a proviso that they shouldn't spend it on manufacturing nonsense to sell, they should use it directly for their cause.

Merry Christmas to you too Kandinsky. I hope you and your loved ones have a good Christmas. ?????

I agree YABU I decided to send a donation to salvation army and i haven't sent cards i know this might not go down well with some but i think they are a waste of money

You can’t please some people. Years ago I made that years Christmas cards. It was a design withSnoopy and Woodstock and had a mobile of sorts in it and some glitter. imo it was lovely (I wish I’d kept one for myself). But someone was sniffy about it being home made. I was gutted.

Kindisky. I’m sure it’s got nothing to do with money or you and your husband. Be glad that you get a card and don’t let it upset you. It’s probably more of a SiL thing really, my SiL gets a charity card. .

I was in John Lewis yesterday and they had some beautiful cards. They were not in the basement with all the Christmas cards and decorations but upstairs with the birthday cards. I bought 2 lovely cards for my DGC as we like to give them a little money which they can choose to spend or save. We give them presents as well of course.

Yes there are some awful cards, even some Christmas cards which are vulgar but I’m just letting people know that you can get some very nice Christmas cards that are not charity cards if you don’t mind spending a little more!. I buy special cards for immediate family and the wider family and friends get nice charity cards.

I used to buy 'special' cards every year for my own kids' & later grandkids too, but theres far too many now and this year gave them all a lovely versed one- as a whole family- for 2020 from a small craft card business on etsy to support small businesses, and a funnier one from my 2 sons (17&22) for their siblings- but gave those 2 a card with their name on from me as they're still at home.&2 neighbours got a charity card.