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Hostessing on Christmas Day

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Carenza123 Sun 20-Dec-20 19:55:36

AIBU when I say I am not looking forward to Christmas Day? We are staying in our home rather than going to our daughter and son-in-laws for Christmas Day because of covid. Our daughter is preparing dinner for three of us and she is delivering three Christmas dinners to us at our house about 10 minutes from her home. My husband 74 and I, 72, are having his sister (80) at ours. Thing is, husband and sister walk with a stick and I know I will be up and down most of the day, as the hostess, waiting on my husband and sister as basically I am the fittest.

DiscoDancer1975 Tue 22-Dec-20 11:26:18

I don’t want to be a party pooper, I honestly don’t know, I’m just asking the question, but, can they do this? Isn’t there a danger of transmitting the virus? Not the food necessarily, which has been cooked, but the outer coverings, so tin foil, tins, whatever it is transported in. I’d be interested to know, as my daughter loves shepherds pie, but her fiancé doesn’t, so I was going to cook us one and do enough for her and my little granddaughter, but had now decided not to, with the new rules. We are in a tier 4.

maddyone Tue 22-Dec-20 11:27:44

Some less than pleasant responses on here. Nanarose and NotANana have given caring responses.

Dylant1234 Tue 22-Dec-20 11:28:13

Sounds like you have a lovely daughter - does she have a family herself for whom she’ll also be cooking?!?
Exercise is good, getting up and down frequently during the day might stop you ending up needing a stick like your husband and sister in law.....
74 isn’t old these days, I’m assuming underlying health conditions.

Juicylucy Tue 22-Dec-20 11:29:25

I agree with you Marydoll it’s my pet hate to.

GoldenAge Tue 22-Dec-20 11:29:41

Divide the labour and make sure that OH and sister-in-law feel they're contributing, so ask him/them to set the table, and clear away while you do the serving. I expect that the rest of the day will be pretty much as normal Glad you have such a considerate daughter who's disturbing her Christmas Day to bring the hot meals over to you, although I'm sure she'll feel she wants to do this.

CalRuth Tue 22-Dec-20 11:35:33

Good gracious - someone is having a laugh at our expense aren’t they? This CAN’T be real!

Puzzler61 Tue 22-Dec-20 11:45:17

DiscoDancer I heard the question asked on yesterday’s briefing about cooking a meal and delivering it to someone. In tier 4 it is only if absolutely necessary i.e. to a vulnerable person as other journeys are discouraged.
Otherwise , generally, Yes you can, but keep everything clean, sterilised, lots of hand washing during preparation etc.
Recipients can wipe the foil or clingfilm with an antibacterial wipe when they get it in their home.

Lulubelle500 Tue 22-Dec-20 11:45:55

Comments aren't exactly brimming over with Christmas kindness....

helen2020 Tue 22-Dec-20 11:49:14

pretend you're asleep after your lovely dinner.

Youcantchoosethem Tue 22-Dec-20 11:49:15

Callistemon

Lucca

Gordon Bennett

Is he going as well?

It's only one day
Who does it all the rest of the time- have you given the staff the day off?
That is kind.

I used to find a trolley was useful until the day the dog wolfed down all the sandwiches and cake from the bottom layer while I was making the tea.

Loved this one about the dog! It did make me laugh. Our old Labrador would eat anything possible - I remember one time getting out a chicken to defrost whilst I was at work as we had family over in the evening (oh those were the days!) and coming home and searching for the chicken. Couldn't find it anywhere but did eventually find a 10p piece sized bit of plastic in her bed - the only evidence that she had eaten the lot - packaging and all! Quick visit to the vet... thankfully she was fine! Happy Christmas all. Won't add anything else to the thread as what I would say has already been said by others...

Callistemon Tue 22-Dec-20 11:50:36

Lulubelle500

Comments aren't exactly brimming over with Christmas kindness....

Well, perhaps because posters are disappointed that they may not be hosting Christmas, cooking and looking after family because they are not allowed or family are overseas.

Or even devastated because not every member of their family is still with us on Christmas Day.

Just a thought.

leeds22 Tue 22-Dec-20 11:51:41

You are lucky having such a lovely DD. I had to cater for 4 oldies and 3 DSs and usually felt knackered by Boxing Day. Now we 2 oldies usually stay on our own at Christmas- no choice this year anyway.

Callistemon Tue 22-Dec-20 11:53:36

Youcantchoosethem
Laughing about the Labrador - this was a spaniel, just as greedy!
Then there was the half pound of butter my Mum left to warm on the hearth when we were staying one Christmas. He enjoyed that too.

DiscoDancer1975 Tue 22-Dec-20 11:55:00

Thank you Puzzler61, in which case I’d say to the OP, enjoy, but make sure you don’t anti bac the food by mistake!

Molly10 Tue 22-Dec-20 11:56:07

72 yrs is not old. You are probably over thinking it. Relax and enjoy your prepared meal and the company.

inishowen Tue 22-Dec-20 11:56:19

As someone who will be run ragged on Christmas day I have no sympathy for someone who is having a meal delivered to them!

ReadyMeals Tue 22-Dec-20 11:58:53

Carenza123

AIBU when I say I am not looking forward to Christmas Day? We are staying in our home rather than going to our daughter and son-in-laws for Christmas Day because of covid. Our daughter is preparing dinner for three of us and she is delivering three Christmas dinners to us at our house about 10 minutes from her home. My husband 74 and I, 72, are having his sister (80) at ours. Thing is, husband and sister walk with a stick and I know I will be up and down most of the day, as the hostess, waiting on my husband and sister as basically I am the fittest.

Make sure you have a good book and immediately after the xmas meal develop a raging headache and go to bed with your book smile It's irrelevant whether or not YABU, that's a solution for you. I like goal-oriented solutions :D

Buffy Tue 22-Dec-20 12:00:51

Lucky you. All the hard work is being done for you.

Lulubelle500 Tue 22-Dec-20 12:03:23

Callistemon: We're all disappointed though, aren't we? But try not to think we're the only ones. Just a thought.

Blossoming Tue 22-Dec-20 12:09:17

I hope you get a chance to relax Carenza123. Have a lovely Christmas.tchsmile

silvercollie Tue 22-Dec-20 12:13:39

Carenza123

Come on now, none of this is as bad as you imagine. All you have to do is stand up, walk around a bit greet your kind daughter, sit down and enjoy the meal that she has prepared for you all, then sleep.

Which is the difficult bit?

Dear me. I like many, many others have had family Christmas holiday cancelled, so Christmas alone.

Be thankful dear lady.
Happy Christmas, love and light.

Aepgirl Tue 22-Dec-20 12:18:24

There’s nothing more embarrassing than being in the home of a reluctant hostess. Just grit your teeth and be gracious - at least you don’t have to cook.

queenofsaanich69 Tue 22-Dec-20 12:19:09

When I have to run around I always tell myself I’m getting exercise and burning off calories and I’m lucky as if I sit too long I stiffen up ( usually have 17 for Christmas,but not this year) I’m 74———- make sure you start your day with champagne and orange juice and go from there,good luck.

Violettham Tue 22-Dec-20 12:25:19

What Avitor 1 said.

nipsmum Tue 22-Dec-20 12:30:56

I'm sorry. Are you usually sitting and being served. Maybe you would like your daughter to stay and save you having to get up from your chair a couple of times. Are both your guests totally helpless.???