Unkind comments

I used to get called ‘ smiler’ deadpan and poker face over the years. I don’t have the facial muscles or set of teeth to have a big broad smile or have a large mouth. I have had a hard traumatic upbringing and perhaps that might have something to do with it I don’t know. My DD has a big broad beautiful smile. I don’t feel the need or the urge to go around grinning but I do have a dry sense of humour and can make most people laugh no matter who they are...

I have the resting "miserable cow" face so ignore the "cheer up" comments.

The only time I got annoyed is, when younger, meeting new people at a party being asked the usual questions like what do you do etc. Then comes the question "do you have children" when I would answer no I would get the inevitable questions "why is that" or even "whose fault is it". My stock reaction was to say I didn't know them well enough to have that conversation and walk away

I'm practising my resting bitch face right now as I'm usually smiling. I'd never take any notice of silly remarks, just think 'Another idiot'.

I do believe, though, as we age, our faces depend on muscle memory, so tend to show our usual mood. My friend always looks grumpy and/or worried - such a shame.

Wow. That was insensitive of you. You could have handled it a much better way. Like suggest to help you with something. Ouch.

That was a response to OceanMama.

To whom is your comment addressed pmeehan3?

Crossed post.

cornishpatsy

My daughter is above average height, when meeting new people they often comment on how tall she is as though she hasn`t noticed.

Same here but it's me that's tall. At 16 I was 6'.1" Still am! Not the 16 bit (I wish ). I was too shy then to give a good retort back but I do now.
One of my favourite replies is: "Really, I never knew that. Thanks for telling me"
Or if somebody says "how tall are you?" you say "I don't know, how much do you weigh?"
Hate it when someone stands at the side of me jumping up and down when doing the name calling.

Great response muse.

I have a great resting bitch face.

muse, "...how much do you weigh?" is a great answer. I shall use that when asked any personal question myself.

When somebody says something insensitive or rude to me I usually say “oh dear, I don’t expect you intended that to sound as rude (hurtful - insert adjective of choice) as it did”.