Lululemon - Tell your daughter NOT to feel guilty, NOT to go back and take NO notice of the fiances mother. I'm the mother of an alcoholic son, who I love dearly, but after 18 years of feeling guilty in case his upbringing caused it, feeling sorry for him and all the opportunities in life he's missed, and doing everything imaginable help him stop drinking, I have finally given up. The truth is this: alcoholism is a terrible affliction that even the nicest people have. But the alcohol changes that personality. Alcoholics always blame anybody and anything for their drinking. They lie all the time to get you to do or give them what they want. They will spend every last penny on booze, be unable to hold down a job or take responsibility for anything. My family have all suffered mentally due to one persons drinking, the shame, stigma, guilt, mind games, setting one person against the other. Its endless. The fiances mother is probably going through this and is in denial. I've done that too. Eventually you watch their health deteriorate and know that they will die before you do. But only the alcoholic can choose to get help and stay sober and nobody means more to him than the alcohol does. I have huge respect for recovering alcoholics who have to fight everyday to stay sober. But if you can avoid getting involved in the first place, then save yourself and any future children you hope to have, the heartache that living with an alcoholic brings.