Hi, I’d like your advice.
I am diabetic, and have asked my partner if he would keep the treats he brings home for himself out of sight. That means putting them in a carrier bag so I don’t see them, which can then go in the fridge or freezer. I have no problem at all with him buying treats for himself and eating them. It would just help me if I didn’t see them. It is a request, not a demand, for something I would find helpful and would show support for the difficulty of having diabetes without any extra temptation. I liken it to someone giving up cigarettes. I would not show them the cigarettes I’d bought, or someone trying to give up alcohol and not showing them bottles of wine I’d bought. I would keep them out of my partners sight because I think it would be helpful. Despite repeated attempts to get my partner’s help, it happens once, then he ‘forgets’, or brings me something sweet, saying, ‘I thought you might like a treat’.
I have asked him not to do this, but today, after a visit to the supermarket, he asked me to come and look at what he’d bought before it was packed away. He brought out 2 pain au raisins, a packet of hot cross buns, a family sized lemon tart and a bar of fruit and nut chocolate along with the other items. The treats he has put in the freezer are on top in full view with no attempt to conceal them. Aibu to feel it is a relatively simple request? He gets angry if asked about it, as though it is too much to remember or a nuisance for him.
I can’t imagine not doing this if the situation was reversed.
Thanks.