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Leaving long hair wet on a 7 year old granddaughter

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Londonia Sat 03-Apr-21 20:42:05

Does anyone else find it unreasonable to leave a child's long (though not particularly thick) hair wet after washing it - rather than using a small hairdryer. I find it unreasonable and have discussed it with daughter and s in law. They just consider it is not necessary. To me it's important for a couple of reasons. Just interested an objective point of view. Thank you. New member.

nanna8 Mon 05-Apr-21 08:20:32

We don’t really know why they never came back. Illness? Death? Broken equipment? Most likely none of these but we have had an interesting conversation about nothing along the way!

Lovetopaint037 Mon 05-Apr-21 10:14:08

I was told by a Vidal Sassoon hairdresser years ago that hairdryers were bad for hair. I remember him using some kind of hair “infuser” bet I’ve got the name wrong. Also my SIL always said not to use a hairdryer on my grandsons’ hair as his hairdresser had the same. So don’t worry.

Londonia Mon 05-Apr-21 11:31:04

Thanks for so many getting in touch and showing interest. It's something I worry about but that's me. Yes, they tend to get sore throats or colds after (and I do agree there are so many other things to concern oneself about at present) and it's ceratinly ingrained in me to use a hair dryer. Probably, I shall feel a little less concerned about it, given that so many do leave their hair to dry naturally.

As regards colds, my experience and understanding is that some people are more suspectible than others, and interestingly (to me), this runs in families. Likewise, research seems to say we carry cold germs or whatever one would call them and getting wet and cold can bring these out. And people did die in the old days, before penecillan, of severe chills etc.

Anyway, I do not wish to start that discussion! Thanks for all interest etc etc. Londonia

Hithere Mon 05-Apr-21 12:34:34

Londonia,

This is not about the cold or wet hair.

Do you trust your daughter and sil to be good parents and they have the best interest for their kids in mind, even if it does not match your ideas?

That's the key here.
Today is the wet hair but tomorrow can be something else.

DiscoDancer1975 Mon 05-Apr-21 15:25:39

Ok, on google, it says.....
1. Hairdryers are perfectly fine if set to ‘warm’, not ‘ hot’, and shouldn’t be too close to the head. My understanding has always been about six inches away.
2. Rubbing with a towel can damage the hair if done too vigorously.
3. Hair apparently absorbs up to 30 percent of its weight in water. To repeatedly allow to ‘air dry’, can weaken it for later years. To avoid this, you’d have to rub with a towel!
4. It’s fine otherwise, so long as your house is warm. Being cold and damp won’t give you a virus directly, but could lower your resistance to one. Hence, why most colds are in the colder months.

Summerlove Mon 05-Apr-21 16:27:50

timetogo2016

I can`t see what the problem is tbh,although many years ago,a friend of mine who was a hairdresser said leaving hair to dry naturally can cause dandruff.
From then on i dried my hair.

That’s so interesting

It’s actually the opposite!!

Eve22 Wed 07-Apr-21 10:16:13

I always prefer for hair to be dried after washing, or at the very least almost dry for a couple of reasons that I have always been led to believe. Rightly or wrongly, I don’t like wet hair on a pillowcase / pillow as I don’t want it to go mildewy. Secondly, the excess wet should, in my view, be removed before going out in the cold to avoid the possibility of head pain, eg after swimming in winter months. These reasons may be based on myths, but I was told by a friend about the latter whose doctor attributed her head pains to this. If a parent didn’t dry their child’s hair with a dryer I wouldn’t find it “unreasonable’” as Londonia does, but would feel a little uncomfortable with it out of concern for the child. But, it’s the parents’ choice and I’d keep my fingers crossed the child came to no harm.
I do think Londonia had a right to her opinion without being subjected to ridicule from some posters who don’t share her view. Sharing a range of views makes for an interesting discussion, and who knows, some may change their viewpoint through it. Being ridiculed shuts the conversation down, and nobody learns.

Thistlelass Wed 07-Apr-21 22:23:24

I would not leave a little girl's hair to air dry. I would blow dry it every time. Personally I think it gives it a better finish.

Lizbethann55 Wed 07-Apr-21 22:58:00

Didn't dry my DDs hair when they were little. The thought of all that heat on their hair would have appalled me, if I had thought about it, but it never even dawned on me to do so. As for me, I have shoulder length wavy hair with a mind of it's own. ( I am trying to get it shorter but Covid lockdowns keep getting in the way). I just don't have the time , the inclination or the ability to do anything about it. I shower in the mornings, towel dry it as best I can, then I am ready to go. If it is still damp when I go out, then the fresh air will soon dry it. If it is raining then I am no worse off.

sazz1 Fri 09-Apr-21 22:01:45

Always try to wash my hair in the day and let it dry naturally. Hot hairdryer are bad for hair. Wouldn't go to bed with wet hair though or put children to bed with wet hair.

Hetty58 Fri 09-Apr-21 23:50:54

I have long, fine hair - and gave up using hairdryers long ago, as they just damage it.

My sister, though, was always really fussing about, saying I should have a towel around my shoulders - on a hot day - just couldn't stand me sitting around with damp, 'undone' hair!

DIL17 Mon 26-Apr-21 13:14:13

My daughter is 7 with long hair and I never dry it with a dryer.

The heat is so bad for hair and letting it dry naturally is better for it.

EllanVannin Mon 26-Apr-21 13:52:44

My hair was always left to dry naturally and I still do it grin
I don't own a hairdryer.

Lin52 Tue 04-May-21 07:38:52

What, my grandaughter always lets her very long hair dry naturally. Why do we try and impose our ideals on others?

Silvercurtains Tue 04-May-21 07:48:46

We live in a hot country and friends and us spend a lot of time at beaches and pools. Never seen one single child dry their hair. Even on school swimming days and in swimming teams everyone left their hair to dry naturally. No one was ever harmed by not using a hairdryer.