Second Opinions - Saying NO to Quarentine in Our House with Our Baby

I can't remember who said it but:

"if someone gets mad at you for creating a boundary, consider that a good and certain sign that the boundary was necessary".

I would just say no but as they are mean mean & spiteful let them find their own accommodation too, you have a new baby to enjoy & protect,this precious time will pass all too quickly. As for being on facebook either carry on posting your photos and just exclude them from the audience (this can be done without blocking them) or leave them open for them to view and if they make a spiteful comment firmly & put them in check for all to see. You, your wife , & your lovely new baby must come first.

Great point wildswan.

I would tell them that they are upsetting both of you and if they persist you will block them on Facebook so their goading will be pointless.

We stayed in an Airbnb recently when our latest GS was born. They have two spare bedrooms but I wouldn’t dream of imposing. The couple need time and space to adjust even without covid.

It's not even quarantine is it, if you're landing yourself on people who might be affected. You've done exactly the right thing and they need to have a good think about their totally unreasonable demands.

Without sounding hard your house your health your decision! End of your not comfortable and that’s the end of it.

Don't dread the visit CANCEL it. Very selfish uncaring relatives to make a scene when you are trying to enjoy and get used to your newborn. In this situation you and the baby come first and tell them in clear language. Good Luck.

It's not on.....keep saying NO. They are being unreasonable not you and your wife.

Sod em! How dare they, you have every right to day no.

Sorry say not day ?

Quarantine means being isolated from other people- I don’t understand why they don’t understand that!

They are being downright rude and objectionable so I'd say NO! You could suggest that they:

a) postpone the visit until they're back in a green zone & baby's routine is more established
b) rent a cottage, flat, mobile home or campervan.
c) if you have space they could always buy a tent with all the accessories (including porta potty & loo tent) and order their own groceries and lots and lots of wet wipes!

Good luck

What a ridiculous idea! Newborns can get Covid and so can their parents. I wouldn’t even ask to stay with you if I had a cold.. As for the way they are reacting, I suppose it’s not surprising given that they suggested it in the first place. Stand firm SunshineDad, no compromising and no tent in the garden either.

Congratulations on your new baby.

And welcome to the grown-up world of parenthood; you really have been pitched in at the deep end.

It is really nice to hear from a new father who is capable of trying to deal with awkward friends and family. They may hate you for it, right now, but I bet your wife loves you for living up to your responsibilities.

There are loads of women of our age group who were left to deal with awkward requests from family on their own, even when we said dispairingly, " but she's YOUR MOTHER, dear, not mine."

Stick to your guns -and let the potential visitors like it or lump it.

Four extra people in a two bedroomed house with a new baby is a recipe for disaster at any time, never mind with quarantine regulations to contend with.

Absolutely NO! Not even a discussion , incredible that they would even ask although if they are of the opinion that Covid is a hoax well maybe it makes sense to them .
. I wouldn’t want them anywhere near me if I had just had a baby the stress of their bad attitude is not needed right now . Protect your family and enjoy your private time lots of time for visiting later . This is a very appropriate and healthy boundary to have . Their attitude is their problem .

Definitely NO! Cannot believe they would even ask you, how selfish. Look after yourselves and your lovely newborn.

You are absolutely NOT being unreasonable. Your wee family MUST come first. By all means send them links to hotels in your area if they must come - but stand your ground and don't be bullied.

Why would they even ask you if they can do that knowing you have a new baby! You must put your little family first and if you lose the relationship with these people so be it. They don't deserve you.
If it's close family, parents, siblings etc. hopefully they will eventually see how selfish they are being.

Unbelievably selfish and inconsiderate of them
Stand your ground. We are all behind you.

JUST SAY A FLAT NO to the whole idea. It's the wrong time to be visiting at all.
Trying to think of a way of placating them is just pandering to their truly selfish attitude. Give a little and some people push a mile. No negotiation.
If this leaves a family rift, I'm truly sorry, but as many have said, your (new) family comes first and the last thing you need at the moment is to be worrying about how you can accommodate/pacify them.

OOps - the last "them" refers to Sunshine Dad's family - NOT to your new family!!

I though they had to quarantine at one of them hotels provided by the government at their own expense ,

They obviously don’t want to cough up for a hotel.

Thoughtless and selfish. That’s what I think.

Try to suggest some hotels nearby if they continue to sulk.

Put on big boy pants. Your home, your baby, your rules

YANBU. Tell them to get over themselves.
Ps. As the parent of the newborn, you hold all the cards!! Let them sulk... but no newborn baby cuddles go to those that are not deserving!

No, absolutely no! I am sitting in the Eurostar terminal in Paris, having just spent 10 days with my daughter, her French husband, and their two month old son, my first grandchild. I had to wait two months for this. It has cost me a fortune in tickets, cancellation and Covid19 tests. I will be quarantining, willingly, at home for 10 days from tomorrow. I am fully vaccinated, but that doesn't count for anything, yet. It was hard not seeing my daughter or her family for two months, but we made it. My daughter is now relaxing into her new Rome as a first time mum. The visit went well, and we are closer than ever before. I gave them space, helped with the chores and didn't offer unsolicited advice. I think your potential visitors are selfish, even if they ARE the baby's grandparents !