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Binders. The world has gone mad.

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kircubbin2000 Wed 10-Nov-21 18:47:47

Lush and a company called Gender swap are offering young girls chest binders which they can collect without their parents knowing .This can damage chests and ribs but from the comments on Lush page the girls are flocking to buy these.. Sounds dangerous.

Doodledog Sat 20-Nov-21 22:10:30

GagaJo

For the umpteenth time. They just accept delivery to the shop and hand them out. Packaged. No profit to Lush.

They're not taking teenage trans people into a back room and measuring 'em up.

Why do you think that Lush got involved in this then, GagaJo?

OnwardandUpward Sat 20-Nov-21 22:16:26

Well, the more we talk about Lush, the more I google them. I now know why they stopped selling some of their products hmm

The binders have done me a favour. I now know Lush products contain hormone disrupters and other nasties, are not kind to the planet and so much more. I didn't realise the synthetic perfumes were so toxic before.

They can try to get brownie points by going behind parents backs to deform their daughers, but I think we are all becoming more aware of their agendas.

GagaJo Sat 20-Nov-21 22:37:04

Obviously because they are supportive of LGBTQIA. Some of us are.

I'm not a fan of Lush. Think their shops smell vile. But... as a post office service, fair enough.

Rosie51 Sat 20-Nov-21 22:46:59

Hithere

This is pointless

What exactly is pointless?

Is it pointless to ask trisher I've answered every question you've put to me trisher but you won't answer my questions. I wonder why? Especially those that reiterate that I'm happy for girls to be provided with free binders provided they are dispensed by qualified professionals who will fit them and provide appropriate guidance and why do you not want this pathway? What advantage is there in doing this behind their parents' backs? If parents objected then Gillick competency would come into play. that would probably be right as she won't answer as she'd have to agree her adherence to the ideology means she'd rather sacrifice children's health than have safe dispensing of these products by trained professionals.

Or do you mean that Lush are happy to be seen as being trans friendly to the point of not giving a damn about the collateral damage done to young girls. Again that's probably right. They have an appalling record of exploiting their staff especially the female ones. Some of the 'promotions' they've involved their young staff in have been very predatory. Dress in a white t-shirt and let strangers plant lipstick kisses all over it including your breasts ......or the one where the staff were naked wearing only an apron...... and before you say nobody was compelled to take part, how many teenagers will have the confidence to stand apart and say no, and risk being branded a prude or worse?

Rosie51 Sat 20-Nov-21 22:47:55

GagaJo

Obviously because they are supportive of LGBTQIA. Some of us are.

I'm not a fan of Lush. Think their shops smell vile. But... as a post office service, fair enough.

Why not just use the normal postal service?

Rosie51 Sat 20-Nov-21 22:49:43

Are heterosexual girls who want to flatten their breasts covered by LGBTQIA? Which letter covers them?

OnwardandUpward Sat 20-Nov-21 22:53:35

Why not use the normal postal service? I am guessing it's so they can go behind parents backs AND so they can probably try to sell the girls some overpriced bathbombs.

Calistemon Sat 20-Nov-21 22:54:30

GagaJo

Obviously because they are supportive of LGBTQIA. Some of us are.

I'm not a fan of Lush. Think their shops smell vile. But... as a post office service, fair enough.

Who are? The owners, directors, staff, manufacturers of the stuff, the landpersons of their shops?

Who decided this was a good idea to encourage young underage people to keep secrets from their parents so that parents have no inkling of their children's concerns?

Just whose decision was it?

Doodledog Sat 20-Nov-21 22:56:23

A post office service?

In what way is it the role of a shop chain to support causes? Anyone who thinks that they would do anything that didn't bring in money is deluded.

That is not how commerce operates, and in any case, shareholders would have something to say if share prices dropped further. Turnover has gone down by £71.3m or -17.31% since 2019.

Could it be that they are desperate for a gimmick to turn things round? This one may have backfired, though.

Calistemon Sat 20-Nov-21 23:00:35

Could it be that they are desperate for a gimmick to turn things round? This one may have backfired, though.

I suppose many businesses have to learn to diversify , find ways to lure customers, in order to survive.

GagaJo Sat 20-Nov-21 23:17:28

OnwardandUpward

*Why not use the normal postal service?* I am guessing it's so they can go behind parents backs AND so they can probably try to sell the girls some overpriced bathbombs.

Hmmm. You're 15 and feel trapped in your body. You get the cheapest binder you can find. You've definitely got £20 to drop on pongy bath fizzers while you're there.

Doodledog Sat 20-Nov-21 23:19:52

Calistemon

^Could it be that they are desperate for a gimmick to turn things round? This one may have backfired, though.^

I suppose many businesses have to learn to diversify , find ways to lure customers, in order to survive.

Yeah, but most of them find alternatives that don't include harming vulnerable children.

Calistemon Sat 20-Nov-21 23:21:05

Yes, I was being ironic, sorry if that didn't come across.

Doodledog Sat 20-Nov-21 23:21:57

?
Sorry - I'm feeling a bit raw after being accused of lying.

Calistemon Sat 20-Nov-21 23:33:22

Although for some girls wearing a binder may be a first step to a gender change I think for others it may be linked to sexuality and a girls's need to conceal her body because she feels the signals it gives out to boys do not match her personal level of sexual maturity and so she binds.
It's as much protection as the condom is.

Well, that is even more worrying, trisher.
Shouldn't boys be taught respect for girls? It seems that the onus is being put on the girl to hide her sexuality, rather like in some cultures women have to cover themselves in a burka because they are a temptation to men.

It's the girl's fault if men are tempted. Very patriarchal.
We should be teaching boys better than this.

Calistemon Sat 20-Nov-21 23:34:18

Doodledog

?
Sorry - I'm feeling a bit raw after being accused of lying.

Sorry that happened, that is unacceptable!

Mollygo Sun 21-Nov-21 11:31:35

Sorry about that accysation Doodledog. Don’t let it get you down.

Doodledog Sun 21-Nov-21 12:08:17

I've now realised that it was on the other thread, so sorry for derailing this one. I have responded on the right thread, so with luck that will be the end of the matter.

WRT binders, I will be interested to see whether Lush 'moves to a different campaign' or however they'll frame it, when they see that the tide is turning on Stonewall. I think it might do them a lot of harm.

My daughter likes one of their ranges, and I usually get her a gift set as part of her Christmas present, but have told her that she'll be getting a different stocking filler this year. She hadn't heard the story, but was appalled when I told her, and will be boycotting Lush herself and suggesting that her friends and colleagues do the same. These things often start with a slow burn that becomes hotter and faster as time passes.

Wheniwasyourage Sun 21-Nov-21 13:15:38

Let us hope that Lush get the message, Doodledog. This stupid involvement in matters which have nothing to do with the business of selling bath products with dubious environmental credentials should come back to bite them. If they get more young customers with low spending power, they may lose more older ones who can afford to spend more, and will now go elsewhere.

Calistemon, you're quite right about how unfair it is that woman are blamed for inciting men's lust. It happens in so many cultures, and it is unfair to women, and also to men, many of whom are quite capable of restraining themselves from inappropriate behaviour!

Doodledog Sun 21-Nov-21 14:42:53

Calistemon, you're quite right about how unfair it is that woman are blamed for inciting men's lust. It happens in so many cultures, and it is unfair to women, and also to men, many of whom are quite capable of restraining themselves from inappropriate behaviour!
Yes, that is spot on.

Calistemon Sun 21-Nov-21 17:08:50

Wheniwasyourage

Yes, I found it shocking to hear that some young girls may be binding their breasts and causing untold damage to their development because they do not want boys (and men) ogling them!
Rather like the trend for wanting to wear trousers in school because of upskirting. However, trousers are not damaging, are warm and comfortable.

Boys need to be taught how to respect girls and women.

OnwardandUpward Tue 23-Nov-21 14:04:13

Something is wrong if the reason girls want to bind is to avoid "interest" from boys and men because it means boys are not being taught correctly. If unwanted sexual gaze is a problem it could also be a problem from other females who are interested in females?
It's a woman's right to BE a woman and to BE womanly. Whatever has happened to body positivity and self love? Things seem to have gone very toxic into self hatred and hiding bodies. What is the world coming to? This type of shame about being female is very sad and is not the same thing as being actually transgendered.