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No response for Birthday gift

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Nanny2020 Sat 13-Nov-21 02:36:33

I’m just looking for suggestions on what to do about my birthday gift that I sent to my DIL .
First thing this morning I sent her a birthday text . She responded Thanks ! a few hours later . She does work full time . In the mean time I bought her a significant gift certificate from her local spa that they sent to her email ( that I confirmed with my son to be sure) and copied me . . I texted Check your email for a surprise! She texted what email ? I confirmed . And nothing further . It’s now late after work and no response . I know she received it . I feel irritated and would like some acknowledgment of the gift . How long would you give someone to respond before you say something to her or through my son ? Or would you feel it’s best to let it go ?
Thanks for your thoughts !

Tanjamaltija Mon 15-Nov-21 16:25:03

My children (all adults) respond to my Fascebook msgs after m any hours. Maybe she got caught up in something - and she did say thank you for the wishes, anyway When we give a gift, it is (supposed to be) without strings. I would have died, had I held my breath while waiting for thank yous from people.

Applegran Mon 15-Nov-21 16:54:30

When we give we do want a response - and I love it when a nice thank you follows! But we give with no strings attached and the recipient may not see it as we do. I am always glad to hear - sometimes a year or so later! - that they enjoyed a gift. But in principle I want to give and let go.

f77ms Mon 15-Nov-21 17:31:51

Enid101

Flipping heck she works full time and it’s her birthday. Let’s hope she spent the evening drinking champagne, eating cake and shagging your son rather than emailing you!

Ha ha! Brilliant.

LADYSMITH54 Mon 15-Nov-21 17:44:56

Well said Enid I love your comment . Give her a couple of days at least before you ask if it arrived .

seadragon Mon 15-Nov-21 18:24:00

Enid101

Flipping heck she works full time and it’s her birthday. Let’s hope she spent the evening drinking champagne, eating cake and shagging your son rather than emailing you!

@Enid101 - Couldn't have put it better myself!

nipsmum Mon 15-Nov-21 19:07:56

I was brought up to say thanks for gifts. Not everyone does now. My daughter's now don't often acknowledge gifts and their children most certainly don't. You can either live with no acknowledgment or don't give gifts at all. It's your choice. I do understand if you are upset.

GreyKnitter Mon 15-Nov-21 20:26:49

I think she should have messaged you at least. Their generation have their phones attached permanently and it takes seconds for them to message. As soon as she saw the email with the attachment she should have sent a quick message. Maybe saved a thank you call for another day.

Allsorts Mon 15-Nov-21 20:38:12

I would just like to know she has received it, but no strings. I love buying presents and it’s nice if it’s appreciated. ?Enid.

Germanshepherdsmum Tue 16-Nov-21 08:11:41

So has OP received the thank you yet?

CafeAuLait Wed 17-Nov-21 06:16:24

I would hope she's had an acknowledgement by now.