Am I being unreasonable not to want to go to the pub??

You must do what you are comfortable with…

What's worrying you

I think we are all taking our own decisions at the moment. There are quite a few things that I do now which I did not do earlier in the pandemic - I feel that I have had three jabs and I am as safe as I can be for the moment - till a new variant makes its appearance here.

But I do not go to the pub - it is very crowded.

I think you are going to have to give it a miss although I presume you are vacinnated but if you are going to worry is it worth it ?
I would be quite happy to go especially if I had already spent time indoors with this group but I already go out socially

I think I’d be wary. Not worth taking risks. Could you make up an excuse?

No you are not being unreasonable , plus you are quite ,rightly in my opinion , doing what feels right for you. Best wishes.

NotTooOld, you are being sensible. Why risk it? I bet there's little ventilation in there. Being fully vaccinated has reassured some people too much. You are still at some risk of a very nasty illness.

It's up to you to do your own risk assessment and make your own decision. I'd probably go and try to sit a bit further away, wash my hands, not share anything e.g. crisps and try to enjoy it.

You are staying safe. They are taking risks.
I would think our NHS staff would prefer what you are doing.

No not unreasonable at all!

Questions of unreasonableness do not enter into it. It is entirely a question of what you feel safe and comfortable doing. If others want to sit hugger mugger, that is their choice. If you do not you are as free as them to make your choice

If you know the members of your group are generally being careful in their own lives, then sitting round a table with them seems reasonable. What would worry me more is extending my social matrix to mingle with random strangers also in the pub at that time.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. You are happy at the meeting where you can socially distance, but not in a crowded pub. Just tell them what you’ve told us, and they should understand and respect your decision. We went out for meals very happily during the summer as we could eat outside or eat in a pub/restaurant with the doors open. Now that people have retreated indoors we don’t go out so much. If we do, we prefer to go at lunchtime when there are fewer people around. Evening dining or pub visits are off limits for us at the moment. It’s our choice, others may choose differently.

If you have been meeting regularly with your U3A group I would say you were safe, particularly if the pubs are like my local ones, virtually empty.
I wish the U3A groups to which I belong would meet again face to face, but one group in particular is prevented by two almost hysterical men who insist everyone has to wear a mask at all times, make their own coffee one at a time and sit two metres apart. As our hearing is not of the best this makes any meeting unworkable, so we continue with zoom which is dominated by those with the loudest voices, guess who,one of whom is the chairman.

One of the "pay offs" of these Pandemic restrictions is that you know in your own heart, you must do what you feel safest and happiest doing. Other people must do the same. We are all masters of our own destiny and are not here to comply with other people's demands. You keep yourself socially distanced for as long as it suits you.

I d go especially if it was a group I was already with, but we re all different and if you’re not comfortable with it then of course don’t go , it’s entirely up to each individual to make up their own minds and no one on the forum can make it up for you You will get those saying yes and those saying no make your own mind up and do what you are happy with

My stepmums U3A have started attending lunches out which she enjoys as she lives alone They do ask members to do a lateral flow test before they attend
I did ask her if she was worried but she pointed out to me that at her age what was she staying at home waiting for Covid to go

We're being asked here in Ireland to prioritise when it comes to our social lives, and basically select a few things we really want to do and then turn down the others.
If you don't want to go to the pub then that's not a priority whereas visiting family or meeting an old friend for coffee might be.

There is someone in the group I go walking with and when we stopped for coffee he always sits outside and keeps his distance. Everyone accepts that and no one thinks badly of him.

Your being perfectly reasonable and pragmatic. 50000 cases yesterday and it's easy to see why. The pandemic is only over in some people's minds.

M0nica

Questions of unreasonableness do not enter into it. It is entirely a question of what you feel safe and comfortable doing. If others want to sit hugger mugger, that is their choice. If you do not you are as free as them to make your choice

... nailed it!

How can it possibly be unreasonable - regardless of the virus - to make a choice about how or where you spend your time socialising? No-one has to conform to another's demands in this arena.

I would do same as you, give the pub visit a miss! It is all to easy to get swept in with others then go home and worry that everyone was too close... Have found myself in that situation so avoid them now. Look after number one.

It’s not unreasonable to take precautions that make you feel safe. I am also going to group meetings in large venues and also out for meals in restaurants but am not yet comfortable going to very large events such as concerts, cinemas, theatres etc.

I have not been to a pub just to socialise but I have eaten at them, sat in groups of six or so in the dining area. It took getting used to but after I had been a couple of times, I relaxed and began to enjoy them again. Living on my own some distance from my family, lockdowns were very lonely and at 65 years old, I felt too young to shut myself away any longer.

You must do whatever makes you feel comfortable, good ventilation is important and it is hard to guarantee that in a pub bar area.

M0nica

Questions of unreasonableness do not enter into it. It is entirely a question of what you feel safe and comfortable doing. If others want to sit hugger mugger, that is their choice. If you do not you are as free as them to make your choice

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