My sister is a single parent, (her choice), and has two adopted children. As is often the case, the children came from very difficult and upsetting backgrounds and subsequently have had their problems.
I’ve always helped out by looking after them, when needed, over the years.
They are now 18 and 14. The 14 year old has a lot of problems, cuts herself, is abusive and threatens suicide. (She has attempted suicide, though more as a cry for help I think). Social Services are involved but don’t seem to give much help.
She stayed with me for the weekend while her mum was away with friends, and as usual, bought their two small dogs with her, (much to the horror of my own dogs). Again while talking to me, she lost her temper, shouted, cried and was abusive, said she hates her mum, doesn’t want to live with her and wishes she could disown her. She then swore profusely, accused me of hating her and wanting her to die! I keep telling her I love her and always will.
In addition to this, their dogs are not housetrained and poohed all over the house, including on the beds.
I don’t think I can have her stay with me anymore, it is just too much. I constantly worry that she will hurt herself or worse and the abuse is so upsetting.
I want to support my sister but I'm 64 and not in the best of health and frankly I’m finding it way too much.
My partner hates seeing me so upset and worried. He also doesn’t want her staying anymore, but I hate to let my sister down. Am I being disloyal?
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