AIBU to want my husband to take less risks while I help our daughter with her new baby?

of course you are not over-reacting.
i wouldn't bother with him.
can you be totally self-contained down there, or could you go stay with daughter and new baby.
are you sure you cannot get booster yet ? are you in uk. the rules are changing all the time, and some venues are more flexible to fulfil the overall aim of getting as many as possible.

My 40 yr old dd and partner are booked for a booster next week. I suggest Nanny2020 you go online to see if you can book yours.

Hi Welbeck, no I’m in Canada so we have to be 168 days since since our second jab. Mine was in July.
Yes thankfully I’m able to live quite comfortably in our suite . It’s peaceful less discussions with him that go nowhere !!

he's a prat. avoid him. can't reason with a stupid selfish mule.
apologies to quadrupeds.

Nanny2020

Absolutely NO, you are NOT being unreasonable!!!

Your husband is, tho, and he doesn't seem to care about his family much, with that attitude!!!
He has a loving family but he could lose you all because of this awful disease, and he's being so flippant about it!
To be honest, I'm surprised he still has a job as some employers are letting go of the anti-vaxxers!

Good luck to you and your daughter and family, and let's hope he gets a short, sharp shock to knock some sense into him!!!

Welbeck
The quadrupeds send you lots of love and hugs.

Nanny2020: ' won’t be eligible for the booster until Feb' sounds wrong to me. Things have changed recently and there's a big rush to get boosters. Find your nearest walk in centre and just take him there ASAP.

The OP lives in Canada, Hetty.

Maggiemaybe, yes, I know, but things are changing fast, everywhere, due to the Omicron variant. There are pop-up clinics over there too.

Speaking as a man, YES, your husband is being totally unreasonable.

Ali08

Nanny2020

Absolutely NO, you are NOT being unreasonable!!!

Your husband is, tho, and he doesn't seem to care about his family much, with that attitude!!!
He has a loving family but he could lose you all because of this awful disease, and he's being so flippant about it!
To be honest, I'm surprised he still has a job as some employers are letting go of the anti-vaxxers!

Good luck to you and your daughter and family, and let's hope he gets a short, sharp shock to knock some sense into him!!!

He’s not an anti-vaxxer. He’s had two of them, according to OP.

But, he can’t get his booster until February.

You are certainly not being unreasonable, and he is utterly unreasonable and showing his true colours.

He is all for himself and cares little for others.

Enjoy living in your basement. You'll be there for a long time if that's his attitude. I hope you have a lovely Christmas with your DD and the baby and be sure to leave him at home.

Events have moved on since you first posted and even Boris is now aware of the urgency of the omicron infection emergency.

Caleo

Events have moved on since you first posted and even Boris is now aware of the urgency of the omicron infection emergency.

OP says she lives in Canada.
Boris’s jurisdiction unfortunately -or more likely fortunately - does not extend that far

"lives in Canada". Sorry . I did not notice that. I don't know how badly Canada is infected by now.

Go and stay with your daughter if you can. If and when your husband comes down to earth, then you can decide how you feel about seeing him again. Show him you mean business. He’s showing a callous disregard for you, and certainly his daughter and newborn grandchild.

As I said on another thread...this is not a joke. It’s not just that he’s not bothered about covid. He obviously doesn’t care about anyone else.

Look after you...and congratulations.

OP

Is your dh always so selfish or this is a one time incident?

Thanks everyone, I’m so hurt by his flippant attitude, belittling our concerns, it helps to know I’m not alone in my opinion of his behaviour.
He has shown this side of himself all through the pandemic , he’s argued against my concerns ALL the way through I’m very weary of it.to say the least. Its certainly a surprise & saddens me to no end that he for his daughters sake wouldn’t agree to
being more careful. Our current rules are 168 days from last dose for a booster, maybe this will change in the future .

Thank you for your update. I wish you all the best.

Update 2 : like father like son ! I just finished a horrible call from my oldest son who wanted me to be aware they have no intention of keeping their contacts to a minimum, they see many people are going indoors to gather with multiple extended families at different gatherings and work events daycare for my granddaughter .They are due for the booster but will stubbornly “wait and see “ in the New Year about that. He was flippant / frustrated and sick of the numbers. They are carrying on “back to normal “ . Essentially if I have a concern with that so be it they won’t come to see us this year .
I’m so hurt that seeing his sister and her baby and our family which we haven’t all been together for a holiday in 2 years isn’t enough to desire a reason to be cautious before they come .Our date was set for the 26 th so after they’ve been everywhere else.
I’m sure he must’ve been talking to his father , although that wasn’t said .
Do you think rapid testing everyone should reduce the risk ?
Would you still want to celebrate with them ?
This selfish attitude of people really could change how we all feel about each other’s character couldn’t it ?

Oh dear. What a thoughtless selfish so and so! Let your DH and DS spend Christmas together and you go and have a safe and happy time with your daughter and her new little family.

It’s so hard isn’t it? But your health, and that of your daughter and baby grandchild are paramount, even at the risk of not seeing your son. I understand his frustration. We’re all the same, but how much worse would it be if one of you died? It may cut contact for a while, whilst he’s got the hump....but death ends it forever.

You stick to doing what you know is right. Your husband and son will have to stew.

Take care ?

I'm with DiscoDancer1975. The issue is health of you all. Health of a newborn baby.

It's very sad, that you won't get to see your GD from your oldest son. But he's making that choice. Not you. NOT that you can explain that to her.

Ultimately, we all have to make our own choices in this pandemic. It's very sad that your husband can't put a newborn baby before himself, but you can't change him. He's an idiot if he thinks his selfishness won't change how you feel about him though.