AIBU to want my husband to take less risks while I help our daughter with her new baby?

He's a selfish man. You should just keep your distance. My dh knows how vulnerable I am and covid would definately see me off so he is very careful.

Do you know what makes it worse?? Last year my son and his family lived with us for 10months to ride out the pandemic outside the city to keep their new baby safe ! We basically wouldn’t see my daughter who was a nurse working through it all , and now they can’t see her perspective and prioritise seeing her . It gets me so angry at the utter selfishness of people . I thought I raised them to differently. .
My thoughts were just celebrate with her this year and let them go mingle everywhere else that they want to be !

Thanks everyone so very much for responding ?now ball is in my court to call him back . As I was in tears and ended the call abruptly during his anti COVID restriction rant .

Don't call him back. That will underline your response.

Nanny, your husband is being a totally selfish person. People like him spread the virus. I would not want to be round him and risk anything happening to yourself. I don’t think I would want to stay married to him, but that’s just me, I would lose all respect for him I’m afraid.
Your son, let him do what he wants, his decision, see him in a few years if that’s what he wants, but I would explain that you have totally opposite views and you are doing what you think is right, Ring your son if you must, you don’t want a permanent rift, just kindly say how it is and sorry it’s going to be a long time before you can safely meet up. Leave it at that.
I so sorry you are in this position, thank goodness your daughter and your gd bring joy into your life and you have helped her through a very traumatic time,?

My heart goes out to you. You know you are not the unreasonable one in this situation.
All you can do is focus on what you know to be the safe course of action for you, your daughter and her baby.

Nanny2020

Do you know what makes it worse?? Last year my son and his family lived with us for 10months to ride out the pandemic outside the city to keep their new baby safe ! We basically wouldn’t see my daughter who was a nurse working through it all , and now they can’t see her perspective and prioritise seeing her . It gets me so angry at the utter selfishness of people . I thought I raised them to differently. .
My thoughts were just celebrate with her this year and let them go mingle everywhere else that they want to be !

This just gets worse doesn’t it. Your son sounds so selfish. Do you think it could be a cover for anxiety?

Whatever the reason, avoid them, and sorry for repeating myself.

Firstly I'm fully vaccinated including the booster.
That said I don't believe this vaccine works to prevent covid as some members of my family have caught it and they are fully vaccinated. One member of my extended family died of it. So I can't see any reason for vaccine passports or fear of unvaccinated people as we are all able to catch it and spread it.
Your OH is a fool if he thinks he's protected now. He should not be mixing in large groups.
You are very sensible to limit contact with others.

I am going o the main subject here .
Nanny2020
I think you are wonderful going to hep your daughter. Both o my children were difficult births and my mother hardly showed her face.
Keep up the good work no matter what your husband does

The thing is that having the vaccine is a Personal choice.. You have your beliefs and he has his. He himself might be feeling forced and under pressure to do something that he clearly does not want to do

He doesn't see it as you do, you feel he may bring covid to the family but he does not believe that he will and that's why he does not feel selfish

I do understand your concerns I really do however perhaps if you approached calmly with No pressure and maybe presented him with some facts, that would work better than judging him for his personal choice