AIBU or is my DH being unreasonable!

An anti-Vaxer is totally different to denying Covid exists! Do some decent reading and look at the REAL statistics! However, if one is particularly at risk due to reduced immunity etc then I think it is up to people to be responsible with their behaviour!! So what are you going to do for the next how many years? Lock yourselves away and build no immunity at all?? If the “experts” encouraged us to look at diet and sensible supplementation instead of giving us false statistics, everyone could benefit! Rant over!

Whatever the facts (and I'm not going to argue them here, basically anti-vaxxers are relying on the goodwill of the rest of us to get vaccinated and provide them with herd immunity. Incredible selfishness. What bothers me most about your DHs attitude is that he would rather upset you than admit to his friend that he is putting you (and your feelings) first - the pair of them are in a kind of macho competition for who can be the most irresponsible. He seems to be treating you with no thought and little respect, not a marriage I'd want to stay in but that's up to you. However, as a first step, through many years of marriage I've learned that what I SAY has almost no effect until I DO something about it, so move him into the spare bedroom pronto! Good luck.

Surely, the unvaccinated friend is at far more risk from you hubbie than he (and also you) are from him.

I know an elderly lady who refuses vaccination. Not really sure of reason, she is not into conspiracy theories, but just feels her own immune system will be strong enough. I think she is foolish, and taking an unneccesary risk - but that really is her problem. I cannot see how socialising with her is putting me at any more risk than socialising with anyone who is vaccinated.

I know so many people now - all fully vaccinated who are testing positive, particularly those who, either at home or at work are around children. However, thanks to their vaccinations, none of them have been very ill with it. I fear for this lady if she gets infected.

Do think we are all getting rather paranoid about this. Horrible virus, causing many problems and sickness, but - fortunately, not a great killer and with vaccinations, even less so.

Do people spend other years avoiding meeting up with people who have bad colds, etc? Yes, I know this can be worse, but we have rather been trained to be extremely fearful over the past couple of years.

How about showing him this thread——-say I would like you to read this all through without saying anything then maybe we can have a discussion and go from there——- do you have family who could say “Dad I feel uncomfortable with you seeing …………”. worth a try,good luck.

Thankyou

It seems risky but if you want him to wait until Covid is over he will wait forever

Yanbu

Sue65 - I’m with you ?

I’d be inclined to tell him that if he insists on behaving stupidly, he must self isolate from you - separate beds, meals, and disinfecting bathroom after use - in fact all the isolation rules we were given st the beginning. He may choose to put himself at risk, but does not have the right to risk your health/life.

Perhaps they should read this

Anti-vaxx kickboxing champion dies from Covid after trying to treat 'little virus' at home

AN ANTI-VACCINE kickboxing champion has died from coronavirus after he tried to treat himself at home.

Say No More

He is being dangerously stupid and thoughtless - how can he even consider being friends with such a loser, never mind putting your health at risk - absolute no no, or divorce time I'd say

I have a wonderful 23 month old grandson, but he's started saying 'oh f**k' when he drops something or does something wrong. He is slightly behind in speaking generally. How can we stop him from swearing? Any advice is appreciated. Thank you.

Most people I know who have Covid at this time, have very mild symptoms but have all been vaccinated. One friend who is unvaccinated had Covid back in July again a mild dose and feeling a bit fluey for two days. We just have to live with this and not shut ourselves away.

I fail to see what the issue is. You’re both vaccinated, so what difference does it make to you? Possibly to them, but that’s not your problem.
I have a mixture of friends some vaccinated and some not. FYI all my friends who have been vaccinated have suffered far worse and for longer than non my non vaccinated friends. I haven’t had covid so can’t comment.

As someone who was left with heart failure because of COVID (previously no health conditions) you are not being unreasonable. You might want to ask your husband if his friendship is worth life changing health conditions (or worse)

Claxon

I fail to see what the issue is. You’re both vaccinated, so what difference does it make to you? Possibly to them, but that’s not your problem.
I have a mixture of friends some vaccinated and some not. FYI all my friends who have been vaccinated have suffered far worse and for longer than non my non vaccinated friends. I haven’t had covid so can’t comment.

You can’t comment ? You just did. “All your friends” who have Covid etc How many ? Sorry but I think that’s nonsense.
Not being vaccinated is just selfish,

I am still bewildered by how an unvaccinated person is of any more danger to their friends, than one that is vaccinated. If they catch covid, it is likely they will be far more ill with it than those who have been vaccinated.

BUT....their chances of catching and passing on this virus is exactly the same as those who have been vaccinated.

Do people really still not understand what vaccination does? Protects you if you catch the virus that is all.

So.....your unvaccinated friend is in far more danger from hubbie than he is from them.

BUT....their chances of catching and passing on this virus is exactly the same as those who have been vaccinated

No it isn’t.

I think if you believe that being vaccinated is the right thing for you and your family then you should do it and continue to vaccinate regularly otherwise you’ll be classed as unvaccinated. But I think it’s wrong to expect or judge others who are not comfortable taking an experimental vaccine (it is not fully approved or tested - fact).

It seems many people have lost the ability to think critically, use common sense or question the censorship of mainstream media.

I think this is quite interesting.

www.zerohedge.com/medical/life-insurance-ceo-says-deaths-40-among-those-aged-18-64-and-not-because-covid

Franbern BUT....their chances of catching and passing on this virus is exactly the same as those who have been vaccinated
No. Unvaccinated people who are infected will be carrying a higher viral load than a vaccinated person & so will be more likely to pass it on.

suedawes you need to start your own thread if you want people to respond. But a good start would be to ask the adults around your grandson to refrain from using the f-word and other expletives.

Suedawes the only way a 23 month old picks up that language is because he hears it around him, he has no clue what it means. As Jane says, it’s the adults around him who need to mind their language.

Ask him if he'd like to move in with his chum in order to keep you safe?
And to look after his chum(p) if/when he becomes really ill with Covid?
Or would he prefer to sometimes lay flowers on your grave, you know, when his chum allows him to?!!

Good luck, Jezra, I hope he comes to his senses soon!

I would be affronted if my husband put the desires of his friend before me, I'd ask him to isolate from me for 5 days after each time he sees him,

Do tell us OP, have you made a stand?

Basically your husband is placing this friendship above you, your health, your mental health, your marriage and the welfare of all the vaccinated people you mix with.
Those are his priorities.
Speaks volumes.